7 Common Mistakes To Avoid If You Want To Date Attractive Women

Have you ever noticed that really attractive women never seem to be attracted “nice” guys? Sure you have. You’ve had attractive female friends that always seemed to date “jerks”, but for some reason they were never romantically interested in you. Why?

Here’s are some simple explanations:

1.Women don’t feel attraction to men based on how “nice” a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful “attraction” to them. Being nice doesn’t make a woman feel that powerful attraction, therefore, being nice doesn’t make a woman attracted to you.

Don’t try to convince her to like you. Most guys try very hard to convince a woman to feel differently, but the bad news is, you cannot change how a woman “feels” when it comes to attraction. After all, haven’t you been in a situation where a woman showed interest in you but you just wasn’t attracted to her? It’s the same principle.

2. You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get annoyed at men who seek their approval. Women are never attracted to men who kiss up to them.

In a desire to please women guys are always doing things to get a woman’s “approval” or “permission”. That doesn’t mean you have to treat a woman badly for them to like you. However, if you think that treating a woman well means getting her approval and permission for things, think again.

3. Stop trying to buy her affection with food And gifts.How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her rejectyou for someone who didn’t treat her even half as well as you did?

When a guy does these things, you’re sending a message that says ““I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I’m going to try to buy your attention and affection”. These gestures come across to a woman as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation.

4. Don’t share how you feel too early in the relationship. Attractive women are rare and they get a plenty of attention from men. Most men don’t realize this, but attractive women are constantly being approached in one way or another. Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men. They have experience, which unfortunatly for you  means they know what to expect.

Unless you want to send a woman running away faster than anything, don’t says things like “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates.

5. Women are very different from men when it comes to attraction. Guys feel a sexual attraction to women almost instanly, but the same does not apply to women.

Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on? Women are most attracted to the way a man makes her feel. How often have you noticed average and unattractive ment with beautiful women?

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around? Learning how to use body language and communication, you can make women feel the powerful sexual attraction to you that you feel.

6.One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they’ve even gotten started, thinking that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money, or guys who are a certain height, or guys who are a certain age.

Although there are some women who are only interested in these things, most women are more intrested in a man’s personality than his bank account or his looks.

7. Women are never attracted to men that they can walk all over. Women just aren’t attracted to Wussies!

What Are Your Desires?

What will get you excited? What kind of woman turns you on? What traits do you look for in a woman? Does she have slim long legs or curvy hips and thighs? Is she in a certain age group? Does she work out regularly? Athletic? Consider everything you can think of!

Now what personality type does your dream woman have? Is she outgoing or shy? Does she love to go out and socialize, or is she more of a homebody type that loves to cook and sew? Is she a lady or a tramp? Or a little of both? Write down anything you WANT. What are her music and food preferences? Does she like sporting events? Nightclubs? Traveling? Shopping? Does she like animals? Children? Does she have any children? Does she have a career? Is she a student?

You are going to find definite traits and requirements that you’re looking for in a woman. Don’t feel shy, or guilty, about these requirements. Never feel ashamed for who you are and for what you want. There are many kinds of women out there, and many of them will meet your demands. You need to decide your minimum requirements. You also need to figure out which qualities or attributes you are willing to compromise.

As you progress through meeting and dating different types of women your ideal woman may lose or adopt new qualities. You must stay focused on what you want, even if that keeps changing, in order to progress in a positive direction. By knowing what you want, you’ll be able to eliminate undesirable types of women. You want to meet and get women you desire with little hassles or wasted efforts.

If you have answered the questions honestly you should know more about who you are, and what you are looking for. I’ll bet that if you look over your analysis you’ll find that the woman you want has similar physical and personality traits as yourself. No doubt she shares similar interests and values, and she probably likes guys like you. The information gathered here will be used later on to advance your plan to pick up and seduce the woman (or women!) of your dreams.

If you have not yet gone through and answered the questions above in writing then STOP whatever you’re doing and answer them NOW!

It is in your own best interest to know who you are and what you want. Below we talk about what women want, so you need to know what you have going for and what you might have to change to become more attractive and approachable to women. Now that you know what YOU want, it’s time for you to figure out what women want. Once you know what she wants, you can begin fine-tuning your own behavior to better your odds of getting Miss Right. Once you know what she wants, you then have the power to appeal to any woman and make her want you.

Women Will No Longer Be a Mystery!

Women nowadays have a lot of attitude, and if you’re a single guy there’s a lot you need to know if you want a relationship, or just a one night affair. The truth is, women like the attention they get from guys, and that’s why many of them go from one to the next. You have probably seen this for yourself. Susie Homemaker is a thing of the past.

Walls Of Communication

Matters of the heart are a true mystery to all involved. In order to make a commitment to a relationship, it takes strength and trust in another. When we trust our partner and we receive trust back, it is a very nice feeling. One should never betray or play games with that trust. Those games usually get caught, and a broken trust will surely create a huge wall of communication breakdown. When you truly trust another, you are opening your heart and mind to an outsider. You are at this time very vulnerable for just about any kind of emotional attack. Confusion and misunderstandings are amongst those emotions now.

This is why communication is so important. It is the key to opening all those doors. Without it, the doors will remained locked and one will have to work very hard to break through. It is much more productive to just talk, listen, and understand your partner. I am not saying that this will be easy, but with love in your heart, it can be done. The end results will definitely be more lasting. For every forced door, there will be a negative memory to try to bypass in the future. When doors are open with love, patience and respect, they will have only good memories to savour and smile upon in the future. Those are extremely important in tearing down those walls.

Communication is a very important act between two people. It even has more importance than sex to keep a relationship building stronger. In order to to communicate, it takes two willing and open minds. If one mind is closed, all that will happen is the other will grow in confusion and frustration.

Some of us worry about the ABC`s in life and others worry about the EF&G`s in life. Thats OK. It is what adds to the color to our black and white life with each other. Yes it would be easier if we all worried and thought about things equally. It would be less confusing. But only for a short time. Soon enough our complacency with each other would get “OLD”. It would be as if we could read each others minds, but what would be the point if we thought and worried the same.

A little bit of controversy is a much needed thing in a relationship. It helps us to get to know another part of our partner and also our own selves. When we open our hearts to another, only then will we offer this part of us. Until then it isn’t necessary. One very important thing about a person sharing their inner most fears and disappointments is never, ever, try to stifle that person or walk away in frustration. If someone is that open with you, embrace it and  hear them out. Never belittle their concerns as being immature or nonsensical because you would never have those concerns. Remember the ABC`s, we all think differently. Only then can you both communicate, otherwise you will add another block to the wall of communication breakdown.

When we are forced into silence, we begin to build walls. If we are not allowed to voice our inner feelings or disappointments, we will quickly stop trying to communicate forever. Once the first brick has then been set, the foundation of the wall to communication breakdown will rise up very fast. Trust me, there is not a single relationship that does not carry or tear down a brick to the wall of communication.

There are many levels of relationships. Some of us are put into situations that take much courage to see past our hurts and disappointments. Just remember what brought your relationship together in the beginning. Many times we will be forced to return to page one and start from there. With open minds and nonjudgmental hearts we can get past many mistakes and problems that will arise in a relationship.

Another favorite, but not so good habit that we as humans create, is to regurgitate things over and over again. I use the word “regurgitate”, because that’s how I view having things being tossed back in your face. Have you ever noticed that another lovely habit (NOT) that we as humans have is to only dig up the dirt when we are in the heat of anger? We do this time and time again, because we already know that these things are a guaranteed hit. It is a very cheap and bullish way to try to win a conversation. Is that not what most communication breakdowns are? Conversation wars that end up shooting old ammunition back and forth at one another? The problem there is that noone ever wins that battle. All that is really happening is that both parties have just taken an equal part in adding more blocks to the wall of communication breakdown. Both sides lose.

Communication can only really work when neither party is being selfish, meaning that if one person is feeling that they are being attacked with every word that is coming their way, and it is all about hurting them. They have automatically closed an open door without even realizing it. Low self-esteem will surely make a person feel this way. Or if one partner gets carried away and will not stop to let the other party absorb what was just said, this too is a typical selfish act. That is why it is important that we take turns with each other and try to understand what is actually being said.
If one partner misunderstands, and you are aware of that, then you are responsible to stop and work with them in a loving manner to get them to open that door. It is vital to not assume anything until the other person has completely finished.

This is why the power of writing is so productive. One person writes his/her thoughts down, uninterrupted, without fear of being derailed from their thoughts and with the ability to just get it all of their chest, so to speak. People pay big bucks to be told just this, so listen up! If you find that your wall of communication breakdown is starting to build, then this habit of writing letters to each other is a very good way to bypass the wall.

Always reread your letter before handing it over. That too helps you to maybe erase a thought or two that was purely emotional when writing it. We all know that old saying, “I did`t mean that, I was just upset at the time”. Well there’s a hind site tip for all of us struggling with that d**n wall of communication breakdown.

Do you ever feel that you are so far under that wall, that you will never be able to communicate with your partner again and just want to run away? Before you run away, think about exactly what and why you are running from. Are you running from a partner that could very well be the best thing that ever happened to you? Or are you in fact running away from your own issues that you refuse to deal with? Remember this, if it is your own demons that you fear, you will run forever. You will never be happy. You will always blame your relationship or your partner for your downfalls. Running away is a cop out. It is a true weakness in character. To stay and fight and trust that your partner will understand your troubles is a true sign of courage and one that will be greatly respected.

We all have our pasts. We must understand that yes, they did happen and that is what they are, past issues. To have your past continue to come between yourself and your partner is a bad thing. Whether it is a person or just an experience, it should be left in the past. This is where good communication comes to the rescue yet again. When we are made aware of certain issues in our partners pasts, it sometimes makes them easier to understand and deal with if they happen to come about again. If we are left in the dark and we have to meet up with another’s past and it is not a very good experience, we will be weak in defense and our ability to communicate positively will be almost non-existent.

Some people fear their partners pasts, viewing them as a threat to their own relationship. This is normal and should be dealt with through love and understanding. Again we must communicate with each other and not look down on anyone for their honesty and true fears.

That wall of communication breakdown will never completely come down if we skip a few blocks and ignore them, or handle them so wrong that they double in size. A good strong relationship will endure most any mistake made by humans as long as both partners are willing and honest with each other.

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“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.”

- Anthony Robbins

“Words are a wonderful form of communication, but they will never replace kisses and hugzzz”

-Dorothy

“Some think that love is all flowers and good times, but I think that love is more than just that. Love is the bad, as well as the better, not lived alone, but a journey together. Something that only the closest can share, with communication, respect,”

-Anonymous

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What’s The Point? Understanding Women

Women and men communicate differently with women being more verbal and vocal and men not so much. Women are also much more emotional and many would “argue” in an entirely different language altogether. And some (okay, most) would say that they encode what they mean or are trying to say behind frivolous words and phrases.

But, if you’ve got one of these beguiling creatures in you life, it’s up to YOU to figure her out and figure out what she really means, especially if you want to keep her.

Apologies: Just because she apologizes doesn’t mean she thinks she was wrong (in fact she probably doesn’t believe she was). All it really means is that she’s initiating the reconciliation, and the LEAST she expects you to do is admit your faults and say you’re sorry too.

Weight Issues: Most women want and need to be affirmed and want to know that they are still attractive to their man. So, when she asks if she looks fat, she’s simply fishing for compliments and wants to know you think of her as beautiful. Make sure your answer is honest BUT accentuates her attractiveness and her appeal (In fact, if you don’t like how she looks, you may want to say, you look lovely in that but I tend to prefer you in a dress, or pants, or in that red outfit, etc)

Let’s go: She may start hinting that she’s tired or has lots to do tomorrow. She may even suggest that you stay behind and have a good time. Dude, that’s your cue to get ready to go.

Kidding Around: She may be complimenting your sense of humor and your disposition with nieces and nephews, but in reality she wants to know your thoughts on kids, having some of your own, and how soon. Even if you don’t foresee having children in the immediate future, keep in mind that ladies like to look ahead, well ahead, so, if you’re not opposed to the idea (even if it is down the road) give her the answer she’s fishing for, or come up with an equally indirect response of your own.

I’m Fine: She gives every indication that there may be something wrong, but when you ask she assures you it’s “nothing”. Well guys, you just may be damned if you do and damned if you don’t. If you take it at face value that everything is status quo, she’ll continue being annoyed, but if do your job and identify the problem, you just may be in for a fight. But, remember she’s WAITING for you to figure it out and to be given the chance to get it off her chest.

What Attracts Women 101

It has been a well accepted fact that men are basically clueless to whatever it is that attracts women. In fact, some reports contend that women are so hard to comprehend that even if men master how to decode their body language, still, they just could not understand women, in one way or another.

According to some studies, 3 out of 10 men can attest that they really understand women.
The remaining 7, you ask? They are out in the haystack finding needles. This means that almost 70% of the male population in the U.S. contends that whatever they do, they still could not figure out how to understand women.

For this reason, men are having a hard time trying to figure out what attracts women sexually and romantically in a relationship. 6 out of ten men attest that women are so unpredictable that what they thought women are attracted to, they suddenly realize in the end that it is not the right things after all.

So for those who are still confused, dazed, and perplexed on what attracts women, here is a list that could serve as your guide if you want to know how to catch your girl’s attention:

1. Women are not attracted to “nice guys”

There are instances wherein some guys thought that in order to attract women, they must be good looking, smells really good, dress really good, and projects a goody-two-shoes image.

What these guys do not know is that, in reality, women are more attracted to men who project “bad-boy” image rather than those who are nice. This is because most women find nice guys relatively boring and uninteresting as compared to those who are funny and confident about themselves.

Surveys show that 30% of women value personality most. Though, this does not necessarily mean that women prefer nice personalities. What women would rather have are men who have lovable personalities brought about by their sense of humor and confidence.

The point is that some clinical studies done to uncover the truth about men and women revealed that men are, generally, more concerned with their looks, while women are more into the character and the way men behave around women.

2. Women are attracted to things that cannot be initially seen by the human eye

This goes to show that innate things, those that are not constrained by physical boundaries and limitations are what really attract women. Women are more concerned with what they cannot see literally. This could refer to personality traits, behavior, and attitude.

No wonder most women would rather date a man who has good personality even if the guy is not good looking or he does not have a car.

3. Women are more attracted to men who knows how to handle themselves quite well

The problem with most men is that they are very egoistic that they are more focused on what the public would see in them.

On the contrary, women are not so much into what makes a man but rather on how man makes out of himself. For instance, women are not concerned on the physical attributes of a man but more on how the man takes care of his body.

Another example, if a particular man is rich and famous, it may hold some possible attraction between the man and a woman. However, this will not guarantee that women will opt to have the rich and famous for a relationship. If the woman will be able to perceive how this man manages his finances well, then, that is the only time the woman will pay attention to the guy.

The point here is that material things like wealth, looks, physical attributes, education, influence, power, etc., still do matter. However, it these do not necessarily mean that these things are everything that a man needs in order to be attractive to women.

The truth is that in order to attract women, men must, generally, have nice attitude and personality. It is only when men make women feel that whenever women are with them, they would feel safe and secure.

Given all that, women and men view the concept of attraction differently. This goes to show that if ever a man would like to attract a particular woman, he should set aside his own point of view and interest, and instead, try to work out in order to catch the attention of the woman.

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