Maybe you tell her sometimes “I Love you” but you may feel that after a while this will lose that special charm. If you tell her every day that you love her, it will become routine and will not have any effect on her anymore. After a while, she might think that you just say it and you do not mean it anymore, and she will wonder if you still
care about her.

Therefore, it is better not to tell her so often that you love her, you can show her. Actions speak louder than words. In order to show her your true feelings, you have to make her feel special to you even if you are together for a very long time.

Here are some useful ways to show her your love without saying it. Remember that sometimes you should tell her “I Love you” but make do so during some special moments.

Surprise her every day with something that she does not expect you would do for her. For example, after a night spend together, wake up early and make her coffee so it is ready when she gets up. Treat her to breakfast in bed. This is definitely a good start for a great day.

Give her a soft kiss before you go to work. Show her that even at work you are thinking about her and the time spent together by leaving her messages on her voice mail with a silly, romantic poem.

Make everyday special. Spend quality time with the one you love. Cook her favorite meal, place love notes in her lunch and don’t forget to compliment her sometimes – tell her she looks amazing like in the day you met.

Get off work early and surprise her with a dozen roses and dinner just to show how much you love her. Prepare a special evening with a candle-lit dinner. What can be more wonderful than wine and dine under the romantic glow of a thousand candles?

Give her roses for no reasons at all. Deliver flowers with a special note attached “I Love you”.  However, never forget anniversary and birthday.

In addition, you can offer her a special evening by treating her to a relaxing massage. Rent a romantic movie, or create a romantic atmosphere by dancing  to slow music,  and whisper “I Love you” in her ear.

You don’t have to do something special everyday.  But doing the unexpected once in awhile, you’ll impress her and make her feel good.

For example, spend a night outside under the stars and talk about your first date. On another day prepare a basket and take her on a picnic, or plan a swim for two at the pool, or even a picnic on the beach.

You have many possibilities to show your love for her but do not forget that sometimes it is good to hear those three words “I Love you”.

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1. Take time and make time. Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect. If it’s lacking, it might mean time to move on.

2. Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.

3. Respect each others privacy. Don’t share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence.

4. Share special online and offline fun times. Online – send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline- if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).

Tend to your online relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow.

1. Know When To Speak Up… And When To Shut Up…

Confrontation can be a bitch, it’s true, but if there is a serious issue that is bothering you, and that may cause problems in your relationship in future, you should say something. Let your guy know what’s up, and hopefully the problem can be fixed. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind – just think of the benefits that may be reaped.

On the other hand, you don’t have to say everything that’s on your mind. Does your guy have some annoying habits that bug you? Maybe he unconsciously hums while he reads, or maybe he’s a foot tapper. You don’t have to make every tiny thing an issue. Vent to your best girlfriend about your guy’s freakish habits, and then shut up and let it go.

2. Don’t Become Siamese Twins

Couples who are attached at the hip 24/7 are doomed to fail, not to mention extremely obnoxious to be around. It’s great that you want to spend time with your significant other, but don’t overdo it. For one thing, your friends, who want to hang out with you, not the you-plus-boyfriend combo, are sure to get annoyed – and you will want to keep your friends around to rant to when your man starts getting on your nerves.

Aside from alienating your friends, a Siamese-twin-relationship may eventually sap the desire from your relationship. When you see your guy all the time, it’s not a big deal when you get to have dinner together, or spend the whole day in bed with him on Sunday. Leading your own lives is the key to keeping a relationship hot and exciting.

3. The Three Little Words

There are three words that are essential to making every healthy relationship work and no, they are not “I love you.” Try “I am sorry” instead. If you screwed up, be it by scratching his favorite CD or simply saying something hurtful (know when to shut up!), suck it up and apologize. But you shouldn’t be the only one apologizing. If your man messes up – and of course he does – you should be hearing those three little words coming from his lips. One word of caution….don’t apologize all the time since it becomes annoying and will lose it’s true meaning.

You shouldn’t be the only one following these three golden rules to relationship bliss. Get your man on board – just leave this article lying around the house, with key passages highlighted. He’ll get the point. With both of you following these tips, your relationship will be on the path to perfection.

Unfortunately, when we look for to buy anything, we try to find out what we are looking for. But when it comes to a dating partner, many of us have no clue about what kind of person will satisfy them. Let’s look at some qualities that may specify your partner.

Physical – Are you looking for a smashing looker? Will you be happy, even if the other person is lacking in intelligence but has a great body? Or you need more intelligence and an Ok, body? Are you prepared to compromise on looks if your partner is otherwise good, or good looks are a must? Think hard and decide on physical attributes you’re looking for.

Emotional – What should be the emotional makeup of your partner? Will you be emotionally satisfied only if you find a caring partner? Or you need someone for who you will care? Should your partner have his/her emotions ruling over the head? Are you looking for a very compassionate person or someone very tough and emotionally strong? Someone who begins crying looking at a miserable scene or one who will say – this is what life is and walk away? Emotions rule every facet of our life. We must know our emotional make up and also know about the emotions we want in our partner. Prepare a long list of questions about emotions you desire your partner to have and try to find out before you proceed further. If your partner is short tempered and if you hate anger, you will never love him/her. Am I correct? Define your priorities.

Intellectual – Will anyone with normal intellect satisfy you, or you need someone who can write volumes on any given subject. What is your intellectual level and what kind of partner are you seeking in this area? This quality is many times responsible for destroying relationships. Sometimes, people of average intellect manage to attract some one of very high intellect and then suffer from this complex all through their life.

Goals – What are your values in life? What are your goals about money, children, family life and other areas? If your partner has different values and life goals, it will be destruction right from day one.

If we know what we are looking for, we present ourselves as thinking individuals who know their minds to any dating partner. You will be respected for that and will surely attract the one you desire.

Let’s say that a few days ago, your girlfriend of just over two years told you that she needs a break; she still says that she loves you and want you to be together some day, but right now she needs some space, a break in order to settle her minds. What should you do?

First of all you should try to ask her the reasons, does she likes someone else? Maybe she won’t tell you the truth and keep lying to you, but let her know that by taking this break there is the risk of losing you forever. So if she really cares about you she will be a little worried that the game she planned would not go as she wanted. If you have the power, you should confront her and tell her that she is right, you feel too trapped lately and you too, consider that is the best for you to have a break, even this is not what you want and your heart is broken.

If a girl asks for a break in a relationship you have to give her that; if she still loves you as she said, then she will come back to you. If she tells you that she will call you, you’ve better wait until she decides to do it. Don’t try to contact her, give her the time she needs. Do not try desperately to get her back because she will run from you and then you will never get her back. Leave her alone, be busy and she will be sorry for letting you.

You should try and figure out why she wants to take a break as opposed to break up. Maybe you haven’t been the best boyfriend she ever wanted. Or maybe she is making new friends, venturing on her own, enjoying the single life, having second thoughts about the relationship and she is outgrowing you; she is having fun right now, but having you as a boyfriend may not really fit into her new life.

Another reason why she wants to take a break is that she is not quite ready to let you go, but she wants to be able to meet other guys, without resorting to cheating on you; or she just met a new boy that she likes but she is not sure if she wants to stay with him or you.

What happens if she still calls you, dating sometime, but she doesn’t tell you to get back together? The best thing you can do is to show her that you are fine without her, even if your heart is broken; all the girls are the same: when a girl feels unwanted, she is ready to do anything in order to be wanted again; so if she doesn’t come running back it means that she didn’t care too much.

You have to wait a little while, but not too much. If she is sure that you love her, she likes this situation: she feels that she still has a boyfriend when she wants, and also she is free to find someone new. So start letting go of your feelings for her right now and start dating other girls in the meantime. It is not considered cheating because right now you are not a couple anymore, you are separated. It is the only way for you to move on with your life and if by some chance the two of you get back together someday, it will be on your terms. So go out with your own friends and have some fun.

When people decided to take a break, what they are really doing is taking time to see if there is somebody more suited for them out there.

This is why communication is so important. It is the key to opening all those doors. Without it, the doors will remained locked and one will have to work very hard to break through. It is much more productive to just talk, listen, and understand your partner. I am not saying that this will be easy, but with love in your heart, it can be done. The end results will definitely be more lasting. For every forced door, there will be a negative memory to try to bypass in the future. When doors are open with love, patience and respect, they will have only good memories to savour and smile upon in the future. Those are extremely important in tearing down those walls.

Communication is a very important act between two people. It even has more importance than sex to keep a relationship building stronger. In order to to communicate, it takes two willing and open minds. If one mind is closed, all that will happen is the other will grow in confusion and frustration.

Some of us worry about the ABC`s in life and others worry about the EF&G`s in life. Thats OK. It is what adds to the color to our black and white life with each other. Yes it would be easier if we all worried and thought about things equally. It would be less confusing. But only for a short time. Soon enough our complacency with each other would get “OLD”. It would be as if we could read each others minds, but what would be the point if we thought and worried the same.

A little bit of controversy is a much needed thing in a relationship. It helps us to get to know another part of our partner and also our own selves. When we open our hearts to another, only then will we offer this part of us. Until then it isn’t necessary. One very important thing about a person sharing their inner most fears and disappointments is never, ever, try to stifle that person or walk away in frustration. If someone is that open with you, embrace it and  hear them out. Never belittle their concerns as being immature or nonsensical because you would never have those concerns. Remember the ABC`s, we all think differently. Only then can you both communicate, otherwise you will add another block to the wall of communication breakdown.

When we are forced into silence, we begin to build walls. If we are not allowed to voice our inner feelings or disappointments, we will quickly stop trying to communicate forever. Once the first brick has then been set, the foundation of the wall to communication breakdown will rise up very fast. Trust me, there is not a single relationship that does not carry or tear down a brick to the wall of communication.

There are many levels of relationships. Some of us are put into situations that take much courage to see past our hurts and disappointments. Just remember what brought your relationship together in the beginning. Many times we will be forced to return to page one and start from there. With open minds and nonjudgmental hearts we can get past many mistakes and problems that will arise in a relationship.

Another favorite, but not so good habit that we as humans create, is to regurgitate things over and over again. I use the word “regurgitate”, because that’s how I view having things being tossed back in your face. Have you ever noticed that another lovely habit (NOT) that we as humans have is to only dig up the dirt when we are in the heat of anger? We do this time and time again, because we already know that these things are a guaranteed hit. It is a very cheap and bullish way to try to win a conversation. Is that not what most communication breakdowns are? Conversation wars that end up shooting old ammunition back and forth at one another? The problem there is that noone ever wins that battle. All that is really happening is that both parties have just taken an equal part in adding more blocks to the wall of communication breakdown. Both sides lose.

Communication can only really work when neither party is being selfish, meaning that if one person is feeling that they are being attacked with every word that is coming their way, and it is all about hurting them. They have automatically closed an open door without even realizing it. Low self-esteem will surely make a person feel this way. Or if one partner gets carried away and will not stop to let the other party absorb what was just said, this too is a typical selfish act. That is why it is important that we take turns with each other and try to understand what is actually being said.
If one partner misunderstands, and you are aware of that, then you are responsible to stop and work with them in a loving manner to get them to open that door. It is vital to not assume anything until the other person has completely finished.

This is why the power of writing is so productive. One person writes his/her thoughts down, uninterrupted, without fear of being derailed from their thoughts and with the ability to just get it all of their chest, so to speak. People pay big bucks to be told just this, so listen up! If you find that your wall of communication breakdown is starting to build, then this habit of writing letters to each other is a very good way to bypass the wall.

Always reread your letter before handing it over. That too helps you to maybe erase a thought or two that was purely emotional when writing it. We all know that old saying, “I did`t mean that, I was just upset at the time”. Well there’s a hind site tip for all of us struggling with that d**n wall of communication breakdown.

Do you ever feel that you are so far under that wall, that you will never be able to communicate with your partner again and just want to run away? Before you run away, think about exactly what and why you are running from. Are you running from a partner that could very well be the best thing that ever happened to you? Or are you in fact running away from your own issues that you refuse to deal with? Remember this, if it is your own demons that you fear, you will run forever. You will never be happy. You will always blame your relationship or your partner for your downfalls. Running away is a cop out. It is a true weakness in character. To stay and fight and trust that your partner will understand your troubles is a true sign of courage and one that will be greatly respected.

We all have our pasts. We must understand that yes, they did happen and that is what they are, past issues. To have your past continue to come between yourself and your partner is a bad thing. Whether it is a person or just an experience, it should be left in the past. This is where good communication comes to the rescue yet again. When we are made aware of certain issues in our partners pasts, it sometimes makes them easier to understand and deal with if they happen to come about again. If we are left in the dark and we have to meet up with another’s past and it is not a very good experience, we will be weak in defense and our ability to communicate positively will be almost non-existent.

Some people fear their partners pasts, viewing them as a threat to their own relationship. This is normal and should be dealt with through love and understanding. Again we must communicate with each other and not look down on anyone for their honesty and true fears.

That wall of communication breakdown will never completely come down if we skip a few blocks and ignore them, or handle them so wrong that they double in size. A good strong relationship will endure most any mistake made by humans as long as both partners are willing and honest with each other.

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“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.”

- Anthony Robbins

“Words are a wonderful form of communication, but they will never replace kisses and hugzzz”

-Dorothy

“Some think that love is all flowers and good times, but I think that love is more than just that. Love is the bad, as well as the better, not lived alone, but a journey together. Something that only the closest can share, with communication, respect,”

-Anonymous

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To begin with, it’s important to understand just what sensitivity is. Sensitivity, or being sensitive, is just one of those things that’s gotten such a bad rap as to make it virtually a taboo. But false impressions are to blame for that, and we can dismiss such misconceptions here so we can get on with the business of becoming a more sensitive man. But what sensitivity really is, in truth, is responsiveness to things around you. It’s a general sense of what’s going on.

Unfortunately, you may be thinking you’ve already got it pegged. But don’t think it’s just a matter of self-awareness and a general idea of the world around you. The sensitivity women want in a man goes a bit further. Or, put more directly, women are looking for a specific kind of sensitivity in men.

Here’s an example you’re sure to remember from some movie you once saw: a young couple are walking along a street at night, and the temperature is dropping. Conveniently, she had forgotten to bring a coat, but he had remembered to bring his. He notices her shivering, and quickly offers his coat to her, despite his own need for the coat.

Okay, that’s a basic example. But what matters is that the guy was aware of his girlfriend’s need, and he did something about it. Moreover, he made a sacrifice for her. This is a big deal. When a man can be more concerned about the welfare of someone else than himself, he’s got a chance to impress the ladies.