3 Tips For A Perfect Relationship

After a certain point in their lives, most women are wise enough to realize that the perfect Hollywood-movie style relationship doesn’t exist in real life. Yes, it would be great if every relationship was completely free of trust issues, and it would be fantastic if you just never fought with your man. Wake up, because it’s a dream that’s never going to happen. While your life might not be a Hollywood movie (if only!), there are some things you can do to help smooth the path to relationship perfection.

1. Know When To Speak Up… And When To Shut Up…

Confrontation can be a bitch, it’s true, but if there is a serious issue that is bothering you, and that may cause problems in your relationship in future, you should say something. Let your guy know what’s up, and hopefully the problem can be fixed. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind – just think of the benefits that may be reaped.

On the other hand, you don’t have to say everything that’s on your mind. Does your guy have some annoying habits that bug you? Maybe he unconsciously hums while he reads, or maybe he’s a foot tapper. You don’t have to make every tiny thing an issue. Vent to your best girlfriend about your guy’s freakish habits, and then shut up and let it go.

2. Don’t Become Siamese Twins

Couples who are attached at the hip 24/7 are doomed to fail, not to mention extremely obnoxious to be around. It’s great that you want to spend time with your significant other, but don’t overdo it. For one thing, your friends, who want to hang out with you, not the you-plus-boyfriend combo, are sure to get annoyed – and you will want to keep your friends around to rant to when your man starts getting on your nerves.

Aside from alienating your friends, a Siamese-twin-relationship may eventually sap the desire from your relationship. When you see your guy all the time, it’s not a big deal when you get to have dinner together, or spend the whole day in bed with him on Sunday. Leading your own lives is the key to keeping a relationship hot and exciting.

3. The Three Little Words

There are three words that are essential to making every healthy relationship work and no, they are not “I love you.” Try “I am sorry” instead. If you screwed up, be it by scratching his favorite CD or simply saying something hurtful (know when to shut up!), suck it up and apologize. But you shouldn’t be the only one apologizing. If your man messes up – and of course he does – you should be hearing those three little words coming from his lips. One word of caution….don’t apologize all the time since it becomes annoying and will lose it’s true meaning.

You shouldn’t be the only one following these three golden rules to relationship bliss. Get your man on board – just leave this article lying around the house, with key passages highlighted. He’ll get the point. With both of you following these tips, your relationship will be on the path to perfection.

What Makes A Relationship A Box Of Chocolates?

“I love you.” What a punch these three simple words can bring – if it’s delivered the right way.

The thing is, some people just can’t say it comfortably without the words tripping out of their mouths. You’d think they’ll morph and turn into ogres, the way they squirm and go around beating around the bush before finally saying the words.

Then there are also those who openly say the words but don’t really mean it. Nevertheless, it doesn’t matter if they do or don’t say the words. What matters is that a relationship remains honest and happy.

What are the things that make a relationship work anyway? The same factors work for all kinds of relationship. Whether it’s a relationship between lovers, among family members, friends, office workers, and business partners, the same foundations apply for it to work.

If a pillar is missing, the whole thing crumbles. Three pillars make up the foundation. We call the three pillars The Relationship Tripod.

They are:

The Companionship Leg

First, it must be understood that a relationship requires at least two people for it to exist, let alone work. You must be visible to the other person.

If the relationship is long distance, you must at least feel that the other one is there. It won’t do any good to take the other’s existence for granted and count on the other to check up on you. You must also show compassion.

If you keep up the show of indifference, it just spells failure. The other person needs to sense your feelings for them. Show them kindness, gentleness, sensitivity – anything that shows you care for them. It’s not that hard to say “I’m always here for you,” is it? Whoever receives this show of affection must give something back. Everyone must do his or her part in a relationship because it’s a give and take condition.

The Compromise Leg

As mentioned earlier, a relationship is a give-and-take situation. Not all people are made alike; even if two people are so uncannily similar, there might still exist small differences that could spark an argument.

This is why an agreement has to be reached on every argument, whether petty or vital. All kinds are important, especially when it comes to a relationship. Someone has to win and someone has to give in. This is why the discussion of differences is so essential.

Discuss the disparity: What is the problem? Why is it a problem? Who should compromise and adjust to the problem? All these should be resolved. Conceding sometimes doesn’t make you a loser; rather, it goes to show how important a relationship is to you. “I guess you’re right.” These words could be the balm of your disputes.

The Communication Leg

There would be no discussion of differences, no showing of affection, and no saying of words without communication. This third and last leg is probably the most vital in a relationship. It enables us to know what the other party feels and what is needed to make the partnership work.

It gives us the ability to say the words that are wanted and needed. In short, the other two legs won’t happen if the last one isn’t present. Just a small act of communication could go a long way in improving a relationship.

You can do simple things like writing a small note on a piece of paper, or writing short emails at least occasionally. Do something to give truth to your existence and your relationship. Don’t take this for granted, because a lot of relationships crumble due to lack of any contact.

Take the long distance relationship, for instance. A lot fail, but some succeed because they make contact with each other almost every day. Even business associates keep in contact by sending each other progress reports.

Any form of relationship is a box of chocolates, as Forrest Gump puts it. Some tastes good and some don’t. Overall, the experience of having a box of chocolates gives you a good feeling because eating each and every piece of chocolate gives an experience – an experience of bitterness, sweetness, or even bitter-sweetness. You don’t get every flavor that you desire in a box.

So if you are looking for a relationship that is easy on the heart and mind, get ready for the harsh reality. It entails the effort of everyone involved for it to work well.