HAPPY WIFE

Hello Everyone! Welcome to the New Year!  Last year had many struggles and set backs, especially with finances, but God gave me more then I deserved.  When times get hard and the battle begins, I remember   (Philippians 4:11-13) I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstance.  I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty.  I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.  I can do everything through him who give me strength.

Happiness is a gift only you can give yourself – Do you ever wonder when walking down the street, if people crossing your path are happy?  Do you ever wonder why you are, or are not happy? Do you ever wonder why it’s so hard to stay happy?  Happiness is not something that happens naturally. My secret for happiness comes from my relationships with family, friends and those closest to me, but not without my relationship with Jesus Christ.  I discovered that for me, true happiness can only be achieved through God.  Knowing who He is and what He has done for me, has allowed me to recognize happiness.  I respect others choices to believe as they wish, but for me, I choose to believe in Jesus Christ.

Right now I am under attack with happiness as a wife.  I have never been completely happy in my marriage, and my situation is due solely to my choice.  I married someone unequally yoked, and now I’m living with the consequences.  For me, there is no real right or wrong in my decision, there is good or bad consequences.  As a Christian woman, I knew I should have married a Christian man that believes as I do.  However, as many Christian women do, I didn’t heed to the Word and married thinking I could change him.  I tried to change, what could not be changed through me.  As I constantly strive to be a Godly woman,  living with a nonbeliever that doesn’t comprehend or respect my relationship with the Lord, is very difficult.  My husband is a good person.  He figures that if he pays the bills, doesn’t smoke, drink or hang out with his buddies, that should be sufficient.  He even had me thinking it was enough, so I felt guilty and tried to play the role of a perfect wife.  I did all the right things, even if it meant forgetting myself.  He’s still unreceptive to my thoughts or needs.  Most of the time I feel invisible.  Again, like most Christian women married to a nonbeliever —- I prayed, pleaded and cried out to the Lord for guidance!  I thought if my husband had a relationship with God, then I could have completely happiness.  I thought this, only until I read “HOW TO BE A HAPPY WIFE OF AN UNSAVED HUSBAND” by Linda Davis.  After reading this book I realized I was doing it all wrong. Not because Linda says so in her book, but because it all makes sense.  I realized that you can’t change, what doesn’t want to be changed.

I still pray that my husband realizes the need for a relationship with God, but I do not dwell on it or allow it to drag me down.  Linda’s book taught me to grow my own relationship with God, so that I can continue to be happy.  I know now, that my husband will have a relationship with God when the time is right.  I have resorted to the fact that my happiness comes from within me and my faith. –– Now it’s time for you to find WHERE your happiness comes from. No matter what type of relationship you are in, you deserve to be happy!

Never lose hope and don’t try to control what is not in your control.  I learned it the hard way!  If you read “HOW TO BE A HAPPY WIFE OF AN UNSAVED HUSBAND” or other books focused on happiness by Linda Davis, maybe you can find your own answers.  I found mine while living with an unsaved husband.  God bless you Now and Forever!!!! REMEMBER!  God… is the blessed controller of all things, the king over all kings and the master of all masters.  (I Timothy 6:15)

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Building High Self Esteem

Self-esteem is defined as the way a person feels and thinks about him or herself. It is believed that self-esteem is developed during the childhood years. It is largely affected by how one has been treated by the people surrounding him or her particularly his or her parents.

Many individuals suffer from low-esteem. When someone has low self-esteem it affects all facets of his or her life. Low self-esteem can have adverse effects in ones confidence, ability to build and maintain friendships and romantic relationships, career development or work performance. It could also lead to unhappiness and a generally unsatisfactory life. Self-esteem is rooted in ones belief in ones self. When ones doubts or has u uncertainties when it comes to his or her capacities then he or she is likely to be suffering from low self-esteem.

Statistics are unavailable but it is estimated that millions of people around the world are suffering from low self-esteem. It affects even those in developed and industrialized countries such as the United States and United Kingdom.

Fortunately for these individuals, there are many ways to build self-esteem. One of the most effective of these ways is to have a positive self image. A positive self image simply means an agreeable or favorable view of ones self including ones talents and abilities and physical attributes. In other words, to have a healthy self-esteem one must be able to like or love him or herself. If you do not like yourself you simply cannot have high self esteem.

Another way to avoid having low self esteem is to get rid of negative thoughts. How do you this? The most important thing is to be able to recognize a negative thought as it enters your mind. One cannot simply will a negative thought away. The most effective way to dispel negative thoughts is to replace them with positive ones. If, for example, you are beginning to have doubts. Then simply replace these doubtful thoughts with thoughts of confidence and belief.

It is important that you change the negative thought immediately and not let it linger in your mind. If a negative though stays in the mind for a long time then there is the possibility that it could turn into a habit. In which case, it would be very difficult to dispel or get rid of it.

Another powerful way to deal with negative thoughts and thus build self-esteem is through positive affirmations. These are words that suggest positive beliefs and ideas and are meant to be read or recited repeatedly. One of the most popular affirmation goes like this: In every day, in every way I am getting better and better. If you are having negative thoughts and are suffering from low self-esteem then try to say this affirmation to yourself several times throughout the day.

Finally, you can also improve your self-esteem by hanging out with positive and supportive friends and relatives. This is probably the most effective way of improving ones self-esteem. The words of encouragement and even praises of these individuals can do wonders to your self-esteem. Their love and understanding is definitely more powerful than any affirmation or positive thought. Sometimes just knowing that somebody believes in you makes you believe in yourself also.

Just follow the guidelines above and soon, your self-esteem will skyrocket.