Office Romance

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Love seem to blossom in any place- even the places you least expect. Workplace? It’s not that impossible at all. It’s even one of the best venues to search for a prospect life partner since one is more aware of what this other person is like. You work with that person so you get to know more of him/her inside and out. On the other hand, is it a  bed of roses at all?

The answer is of course- NO. In whatever form of romance, there will always be the negative side. But, what if you want to go out and date a co-worker?

Just imagine this: a male co-worker sends a present to you, it will surely be a big-hot issue for the whole office. The bigger issue to face is the negative consequences involved by the romance you choose to have. There are some reasons why office romance is not allowed by some companies. Therefore, be sure to make yourself aware of the internal rules of the company. For some, it is a grave offense and an employee will be terminated from work.

Romance at work will greatly affect an employee’s decision-making. With this, team efforts and some team tasks will really be dictated by “couple” employees. It is a fact that once personal life is inserted in professionalism, trouble can arise.

Another issue for couples is, what if one gets the promotion over the other? Yes, they are lovers but there will always be that “”ego” thing since both people are going for the same job. Professionals as they are, they have that aim to be better than the rest of the employees.

Reassignment is another issue. Some companies’ reassign one of the persons to another task to overcome situations which may not fare well for the company. If the reassignment of the other person is not favorable to the relationship, it will affect their good performance. Thus, it affects their over-all productivity.

Despite all the negative aspects, there will always be that positive thing about office romance. You meet a partner who could understand you and your mood swings because you share the same pressures of work.

When you are just in the dating stage, see to it that you do it as discreetly as you could without triggering some possible gossips that may just affect you and the person involved. Being professional includes knowing how to put that distance between your workplace and your private life.

How To Improve Your Relationship

Is there magic to what makes some relationships last longer than others? Maybe. Do some people just sit back and sulk, while others seem to let life go by right over their heads and problems? It sure seems so. Or maybe it’s just that some people learn secrets of success from their grandparents or other relatives or friends. And since the latter is probably more accurate, here are some tried and true tips from people who have enjoyed long, happy relationships.

1. REFRESH – Take time to look back, refresh your memories and share what brought you together. Especially when times are difficult, lean back and rely on these old memories as your foundation and glue yourselves back together with them (not literally, of course!)

2. DATES – Keep dating each other. Even if life seems too busy, meet at the end of the evening for something light and easy, like viewing your favorite sitcom (record it if necessary) together.

3. FUN – Couple tend to have fun on dates, then get married and become too serious. Lighten up. Head out to amusement parks or skating rinks, but relive the fun you had at the beginning.

4. FORGET – No need to “always” remember the bad things that happened during an argument. Actively “forget” sometimes. Be the first to apologize and make up. Go for it!

5. SPACE – Give each other some space. Either you trust or you don’t. Get on with life, though. People need time alone and time with their mates and other friends. Be sure to give and take your fair share of space.

6. DISAGREE – Agree that it’s okay to disagree on some issues, and leave it at that. No need to create a new religion or political movement just to appease both of you. You don’t HAVE to agree on everything. And you won’t. And that’s okay.

7. MEMORIES – Make some together. Enjoy special moments, special anniversary dates and events. No need to be elaborate. For example, maybe you enjoyed watching a hot air balloon race one spring day. The next year, you might schedule time to watch it again. Make it an annual event. Collect postcards with balloons on them, playing cards, toss pillows…over time it becomes a theme.

So don’t just sit back and sulk. Take short steps to improve your relationships and let life’s problems magically pass by while you hold on to your relationship.

Improving relationships require knowing what to do and how to do it. If you follow some tried and true tips, it is possible you can also improve your relationship.

No Response To Your Online Dating Ads?

For those who would like to be happy with their love life, dating is probably the single most important activity that one should engage in before proceeding onto the more serious part of a relationship, like marriage. If successfully pursued, dating can provide greater gratifications to those who wished they were happier and more contented with their lives. If ever they failed, it is probably the most horrifying event of their lives.

Having a bad hair day, a missed flight, or a burned fried egg, can be endured by most people, but to have a bad date is like living in agony. When love becomes decapitated, life becomes a survival of the losers.

No wonder why everybody is trying hard to come up with something unique and quirkily entertaining when it comes to personal ads. These ads are not the typical ads that people see on televisions or in print. Personal ads are more like profiles, though; the main purpose is also to advertise one’s self. People who vie for personal ads are those who hope that someday love begets love and that somebody will soon find them among the many singles who try their luck in cupid’s daunting game.

So, here’s an individual, with their fingers crossed as they post their personal ad online, trying to find the love of their life and wishing that someday, somebody would soon reply. Five days, two weeks, 4 months, and still, they don’t get a response. The next thing they know, they’re already retracting their personal ad, sulk in the corner, and mope. They starts to develop low self-esteem and begins to blame themselves for not being desirable enough to get responses.

What they failed to do is to analyze what went wrong. They failed to look back on hertake a good look at their personal ad, identify each part, and evaluate what should have been done right to get the response they desperately needed.

The problem with most people, who fails to get responses on their online dating ads, is that they easily get depressed, and once they are depressed, they start to blame themselves and curse whoever managed to come up with an idea such as online dating and personal ads.

This should not be the case because not identifying the real problem or the ultimate cause of such negative results would only mean that the person is not really interested. Or maybe, he or she is interested but is too desperate to have positive results but do not have any idea how to make it happen.

People should know what to do with their personal ads to gain the gratifications they wanted. So, for people who want to have knockout personal ads that are proven to have positive results, here is a list of some tips:

1. People should learn how to describe their selves truthfully and acurately.

When making personal ads, people should take note of the things they should include on their ad.  It should include information that will provide the other person with a visualized concept of the person in the ad.

The explanation behind this logical reason is relatively simple. Who would try to obtain an item if the buyer does not know what he is getting? It goes to show that before somebody replies on one’s personal ad, the other person should feel the enticement in order to compel him or her to respond.

2. It would be better to tell more stories and not reports.

People should always remember that they are writing their personal ads. This means that they should meticulously find some ways on how to make their selves saleable to the viewing public.

It would be better to write some stories about their life and experiences. However, one should take note not to overdo this one as it will appear and sound like a mushy write-up ready to be devoured by some hungry wastebasket.

It is best to write something people can relate to. Persons who would like to have positive results on their ads should know where to draw the line between telling something about themselves and bragging about themselves. They are entirely two different things that derive two different reactions.

Best of all, honesty should always be incorporated in whatever write-up they do.

3. People should never dwell on negative aspects like problems or failed relationships.

Posting personal ads is not about obtaining some help from other people. So, there’s no room for advices or petty counseling sessions. It’s best to create a personal ad that would draw in positive responses by creating positive profiles first. As they say, once somebody starts something negative, chances are, the negative vibe will stick to the end.

The key point in writing personal ads is to come up with something that will appear very interesting and attention grabbing. So, if a person gets no response on his or her ad, there is no use crying over spilled milk. What matters most is how to start over with a nice, enticing personal ad.

What Kind Of Date Are You Looking For?

Do you know about what kind of dating partner are you looking for? Have you broadly specified the qualities that you are looking for in your dating partner? If not it is time you do that. Otherwise, you will never get satisfied with any dating partner. If you yourself do not know what you are looking for, how will you succeed?

Unfortunately, when we look for to buy anything, we try to find out what we are looking for. But when it comes to a dating partner, many of us have no clue about what kind of person will satisfy them. Let’s look at some qualities that may specify your partner.

Physical – Are you looking for a smashing looker? Will you be happy, even if the other person is lacking in intelligence but has a great body? Or you need more intelligence and an Ok, body? Are you prepared to compromise on looks if your partner is otherwise good, or good looks are a must? Think hard and decide on physical attributes you’re looking for.

Emotional – What should be the emotional makeup of your partner? Will you be emotionally satisfied only if you find a caring partner? Or you need someone for who you will care? Should your partner have his/her emotions ruling over the head? Are you looking for a very compassionate person or someone very tough and emotionally strong? Someone who begins crying looking at a miserable scene or one who will say – this is what life is and walk away? Emotions rule every facet of our life. We must know our emotional make up and also know about the emotions we want in our partner. Prepare a long list of questions about emotions you desire your partner to have and try to find out before you proceed further. If your partner is short tempered and if you hate anger, you will never love him/her. Am I correct? Define your priorities.

Intellectual – Will anyone with normal intellect satisfy you, or you need someone who can write volumes on any given subject. What is your intellectual level and what kind of partner are you seeking in this area? This quality is many times responsible for destroying relationships. Sometimes, people of average intellect manage to attract some one of very high intellect and then suffer from this complex all through their life.

Goals – What are your values in life? What are your goals about money, children, family life and other areas? If your partner has different values and life goals, it will be destruction right from day one.

If we know what we are looking for, we present ourselves as thinking individuals who know their minds to any dating partner. You will be respected for that and will surely attract the one you desire.

Why Do We Date?

As human beings we have what can be considered some of the strangest mating rituals in the animal kingdom. Most species hook up with members of the opposite sex to procreate and nothing else. There is no emotional bond that ties them together for the rest of their lives other than the need to continue the species. Now that’s not to say that all animals are like this, there are some species out there that do mate for life, but the overall percentage of those types are small.

Sure, you can say that many animals have mating rituals that rival ours. There are male birds that flaunt their colorful plumage trying to attract a female, but is that really dating or just a type of seduction? And in the end isn’t that what going on dates is all about, seducing that someone we’ve had our eye on.

Dating is a form of seduction, only for us humans it can sometimes take a much longer time for the desired results to be had. In the animal world there is a specific time of the year when seduction and mating can take place, and with the exception of humans, dolphins and some primates, animals mate to continue their species and not for the pure pleasure of it. For most animals it is the drive to survive as a species.

We humans have taken the whole dating/seduction ritual to unforseen heights. Just think of all the things we do to try and impress that special someone. And why do we want to impress them? Because we think we like them and if we don’t do our best to seduce them using all sorts of dating tricks and techniques then someone else will and that’s just not acceptable.

So why do we date?

To impress someone we are interested in? I would say yes on that one. I can’t think of any other reason to spend that kind of time and money other then to do just that.

To continue the human species? This is a far more subjective question. Do we really need more humans on the world? That’s debatable. I think for the majority of humans it’s for a little more selfish reasons and that’s to have somone come after us who carries the family name onward into the future.

Just for the fun of it? Now here’s whole another way to look at it. Meeting new people is fun. Particularly if you are attracted to them. Dating is fun and it introduces us to whole new ways of thinking and approaching people.

The why do we date question is a hard one to answer, but whatever your reasons may be it’s a part of what makes us human.

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