Dating Rules for Women

The Do’s and Don’ts of dating

Just as there are dating rules for guys, women have some general rules that they should follow when entering the dating game. These are just general rules I found, so don’t take things too seriously.
General rules exists because courtship is a ritual. We make things happen that excite, stimulate, create interest and confound. Dating is a long test of compatibility. Are we perfectly matched?

In every society there are a predefined set of social rules we follow. The bottom line is that when women date, there are some things that can help them be more successful. If we accept that dating is a game, then there are rules to that game. There are winners and losers. If you know the rules in advance, it gives you a head start. If men know the rules that you are playing by, you can change the rules to suit the situation to keep the man guessing.

General Dating Rules

* Always look great. Look your best as you could meet a potential Mr. Right.
* Never reveal information you don’t have to.
* Keep dates brief, but your men interested. Less is always more.
* Try and stay in shape and include some fitness regime at a gym. Men love your body as much as your mind.
* Let your man pay. If he is interested, he’ll want to ensure you eat well and get home safely.
* Ensure you receive flowers. If he doesn’t know what a florist is, dump him.
* Never, ever, sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything.
* Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady’s perogative.
* Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.
* If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday.
* Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends are sacred and not available for dates.
* Keep your man standing on quicksand by shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.
* Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss. Practice on a mirror if you have to.
* Never ever talk about previous boyfriends. Your ex-boyfriends are your business only.
* Never assume anything about your date until you know him better. You cannot always tell by looking.
* If any man shows the slightest signs of possessiveness or insecurity, dump him. Life is too short for boys.
* If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, dump him.
* Never talk too much about your father and how your date measures up in comparison.
* Never ever come across as too available or too desperate. This will chase him away.
* If the guy in the corner is gorgeous, go get him and create the need in him for you. Never wait for men to come to you because you may watch him leave with someone else.
* You may well have all the bodily functions of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on.
* If you want a child, don’t mention it on the first few dates.
* Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.

Winning The Dating Game

Plans are laid, your mouth is dry, and somehow you just can’t stop your hands from shaking. You’re supposed to be picking your date up in an hour, yet your having a bad hair day, your palms are sweaty and nervous energy surrounds your body like a cocoon.

Dating is like a game, the more you do it, the better you get. Some people have natural talent when it comes to dating, and some people have to try, try and try again. But like a game, you have a much better chance of winning if you keep in mind the rules of play.

Look Your Best

Looks aren’t everything, but good hygiene, neat appearance and a pleasant body odor can come in handy when playing the dating game. Take some time to put yourself together. Your date will appreciate the effort, and it shows that you care about your appearance.

Confidence is a Man’s or Woman’s Best Friend

To win the dating game every time, confidence is required. Confidence is sexy. Both men and women are attracted to it, so it’s important that you gain some. This doesn’t mean you should be cocky, egotistical or a jerk. It just means you should seem like you’re confident being you, and all that entails.

Stimulating Conversation

You’ll gain some extra points in the dating game if you can make your date laugh, talk and enjoy themselves through conversation. If you can keep your date interested, the second date is just around the corner. Pull out some of your amusing or funny stories, and ask your date some questions, without getting too personal. Don’t talk about yourself too much either. Instead, just try to go with the flow, and keep the conversation as natural and free flowing as possible, without any awkward silences.

Smile

Smiling alone can help you win a second date. Smiling is attractive, and puts people at ease. Try to smile as often as possible, without seeming like a grinning lunatic.

Manners

Use your manners and be polite. Nothing is as big a turn off as someone who is rude and obnoxious. If you want to woo your date then it’s in your best interests to be as polite as possible, whenever possible.

By playing by the rules, you too can win the dating game every time and earn yourself a second, third or fourth date.

eHarmony To Make Site For Gays and Lesbians

eHarmony agrees to make site “welcoming” to gays and lesbians, ending L.A. lawsuit

It’s hard to believe that an online dating site like eHarmony can be so closed minded about allowing gays and lesbians to use their services. What were they thinking? Anyway, I think they’re moving in the right direction, however, why do they need to create a separate site?

You can read the article here.

eHarmony loses lawsuit, must now provide gay and lesbian matchmaking services

Embroiled in litigation for over two years, the online dating behemoth eHarmony has now agreed to pay two million dollars to settle a class action sex discrimination lawsuit. Read the rest here.

Why He’s Not Going To Call

You’re on your first date, a little nervous, trying to loosen up, so you have a martini –or two or three – before dinner. Then some wine with dinner. Suddenly you find yourself talking about your ex-boyfriend (he was such an asshole! Nothing like the guy you’re out with tonight!). And then that other ex-boyfriend (also an asshole), until you’ve given your date a drunken detailed primer to your former dating life. Don’t hold your breath waiting for a call about a second date.

We’ve all done our share of dating faux pas, and had to live to remember them. While they make for amusing fodder for Sunday brunch chatting with the girlfriends, it sucks to go on a date and completely ruin any future chances by falling into a typical dating trap. Drinking too much and talking about your ex are two surefire ways to ruin your chances of a second date.

Avoid Talking About Your Past

Aside from giving detailed history lessons about your dating past, try to avoid being “emotionally slutty.” If it’s your first date, now is not the time to talk about all of the problems life has loaded upon you, like your parents’ divorce, your grandmother’s funeral, how you got fired from your job, the time when you were five and your puppy got hit by a car and died. It’s a first date – it should be fun, easy and exciting! Don’t bring it down by getting too serious. You’ll just freak the poor guy out – and bum yourself out.

Avoid First Date Sex

While being an “emotional slut” is not advised, being just straight-up slutty is also a big No. I know, so cliché – but it’s true: Sleeping with a guy on the first date will make him (a) wonder, “how often does she do that!?” and (b) assume that you’re not a serious relationship kind of gal. Yes, there are times when a first-date sleepover can lead to future dates and a serious relationship but let’s be realistic – the relationship is most likely to progress to “booty call” status, if anything.

Avoid First Date Interviews

Aside from making yourself look like a fool, you can also freak out your date by placing too much attention on him with interview-style grilling. Asking questions is good, but firing one after the other at your date can be scary. You should be having a conversation, telling him about yourself too, not grilling him for his marriage-ability. (You can always get to that later).

Avoid Drinking Too Much

Last but not least, the ultimate dating faux pas that is most likely to get you into trouble and spur you on to commit one of the other dating sins is drinking too much! Maybe you feel funnier or more outgoing for a while, but after a certain point, it’s just more likely to make you act like a moron. You’re more likely to spill into emotional histories and ex-boyfriend stories, and more likely to hop into bed with him without considering the consequences. So lay off the cosmopolitans (well, not completely), sit back, relax, and enjoy your date. And afterwards? Expect his call in two to three days.

The Best Place To Find Suitable Single People

Many people refer to dating as a game. It’s understandable. I mean, you go out and try to figure out in a few hours whether or not the man or woman sitting across the table from you is worth going out with again. People in the dating game make up elaborate plans in order to boost their success rate, while trying to figure out the right place to find a suitable mate. No wonder people call it the dating game!

Yet there is a relatively new piece in the dating game, and that piece is the Internet. Now, more than ever, people can sit in the comfort of their own home, browse profiles, chat online and get an idea of what the other person is like, just by asking a few questions.

The Internet is fast becoming the best place to find suitable single people. Millions of singles are hooking up and building successful relationships over the Internet. However, if you’re looking to find a suitable single guy or gal over the Internet, there are a few things you should keep in mind.

Profile

Sure a profile is great, and most people assume they’re accurate, but this isn’t always the case. People can lie better over the net, than they could in person. It’s important that you keep your profile up to date, and keep in mind that the one you’re viewing on your glowing computer screen might not be as honest as you think.

Region

There are successful long distance relationships, but they are more likely to fail. The stresses of driving back and forth, plus the added strain of not being able to see each other very often, take their toll. In most cases, it’s far better to find someone online who is close to you.

Interests

The guy or gal, who you’re talking to, may be a veritable beauty queen or George Clooney look-a-like, but do they share any of your interests? If you’d like to win the jackpot in the dating game, you may want to make sure they share at least a few interests that you do.  Chat with them, find out what they like to do in their spare time, and you’ll get a better idea of what kind of person they are, and whether or not you’re compatible as a couple.

If you use good judgment, ask questions and be discerning when it comes to online personalities, you can win the dating game and find suitable single people every time.

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