Nice Guy Approach Doesn’t Always Work

Many men feel that approaching a woman, especially a beautiful stranger, a difficult and embarrassing one. Not only that, they usually choose the wrong attitude by being too nice – sending her lot of flowers, taking her out to dinner frequently and by expressing their lack of confidence and low self esteem. The women on on the other hand are not fascinated by insecure, wussy men. If they sense insecurity, they will either turn down the offer or possibly take advantage of him by exploiting him to furnish her meal after meal, gift after gift and normally go out with another man for real love, romance and sex. In this situation the woman has two men – a provider and a lover.

The good boy, fawning, wussy approach is inviting a woman to dance or offering to pay for her drinks without first developing the attraction or chemistry.

Is Cocky rather then Wussy the answer?

The sweet boy attitude isn’t the best, nor is acting mean and rude. The best way which has proven 90% of the times to work magically with women is the confident, bold, cocky and funny attitude.

In this tactic you build the relationships on a give and take, a compliment and a criticism (with a smile):

you show her you’re confident enough to criticize her
you express yourself naturally around women
you are not afraid of her
you are not concerned if she cares about you or not
you’re honest and express your opinions openly
you are playing the self assured hard to get funny guy.

Now you bring her self confidence to the test, you challenge her, you intrigue her, you build the attraction. Let her chase you! You ought to be her prize, a reward for her hard earned efforts for playing her cards right with you.

For example, you say something like: I like your jacket it’s really nice (a compliment), then comment: but it doesn’t fit go with your shoes does it ? (a criticism), you do it on purpose.

You hand it to her and then take it away at the last minute, be spontaneous, unexpected, a teaser and fascinating.

How would you know if she is interested in you?

It’s simpler than you think and it goes like that: You engage in a tease with her: What a beautiful pair of boots you’re wearing , I really like them. She looks to see who is it and then says: Thank you. You: Aren’t you sweating in them in such hot weather? (smiling) or are you trying to hide your feet from me? She: (smiling) hell, no, I love them that’s all, I’ll bet my feet are nicer compared to yours, Mr. long nose. (she responded therefore she is engaged too *-). You: wow, you have a very good opinion about yourself pretty lady, why don’t we arrange a feet contest…

The crucial thing is to keep it going with light humor and fun attitude. Without ever even realizing it you are both engaged in developing a relationship and building your mutual attraction.

When you start dating a woman take into account you are not on a job interview, don’t cause it to feel like questions and answers, don’t make it boring, don’t try to show off, or talk about general stuff she understands and sympathize with. In the beginning it may seem somewhat superficial but try to keep away from talking about your problems at work, your relations with your parents, etc.

What to Look for in a Woman

Sometimes, knowing what you’re looking for in a woman can be quite difficult. And if you’re one of them, don’t get discouraged. It truly isn’t as difficult as you may think to find the right woman for you.

The very first thing you must do is resign to be very open-minded. You need to cast aside all the standards that you may have been using and start from scratch.  Forget what all your buddies say is attractive. Never mind what you see in the lingerie commercials on television. You’ll want to start with the very basics of what makes two people compatible, not two lovers, but two people in general, in order to find what kind of person works for you.

In order to find out what you are really looking for in a woman, you need to take the time to consider the complete person, not just the body. You need to take into consideration things like personality, interests, ambition and then looks. You’re probably wondering why I listed those traits in the order I did.

If you consider looks first it will tend to cloud your judgment on all the other traits. Men tend to be very easily visually stimulated. For this reason, what excites them at first sight tends to be what they think they want.

However, if you consider what you want in the other areas, the looks may not be so important. You may find that a woman with a great personality that likes football and racing as much as you do and who takes her career as a human resources director seriously, but who happens to be a brunette with only an average build, would suit you just fine. Personality, intelligence, ambition, sense of humor and interests play a much bigger role in attraction than just physical appearance.