3 Tips For A Perfect Relationship

After a certain point in their lives, most women are wise enough to realize that the perfect Hollywood-movie style relationship doesn’t exist in real life. Yes, it would be great if every relationship was completely free of trust issues, and it would be fantastic if you just never fought with your man. Wake up, because it’s a dream that’s never going to happen. While your life might not be a Hollywood movie (if only!), there are some things you can do to help smooth the path to relationship perfection.

1. Know When To Speak Up… And When To Shut Up…

Confrontation can be a bitch, it’s true, but if there is a serious issue that is bothering you, and that may cause problems in your relationship in future, you should say something. Let your guy know what’s up, and hopefully the problem can be fixed. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind – just think of the benefits that may be reaped.

On the other hand, you don’t have to say everything that’s on your mind. Does your guy have some annoying habits that bug you? Maybe he unconsciously hums while he reads, or maybe he’s a foot tapper. You don’t have to make every tiny thing an issue. Vent to your best girlfriend about your guy’s freakish habits, and then shut up and let it go.

2. Don’t Become Siamese Twins

Couples who are attached at the hip 24/7 are doomed to fail, not to mention extremely obnoxious to be around. It’s great that you want to spend time with your significant other, but don’t overdo it. For one thing, your friends, who want to hang out with you, not the you-plus-boyfriend combo, are sure to get annoyed – and you will want to keep your friends around to rant to when your man starts getting on your nerves.

Aside from alienating your friends, a Siamese-twin-relationship may eventually sap the desire from your relationship. When you see your guy all the time, it’s not a big deal when you get to have dinner together, or spend the whole day in bed with him on Sunday. Leading your own lives is the key to keeping a relationship hot and exciting.

3. The Three Little Words

There are three words that are essential to making every healthy relationship work and no, they are not “I love you.” Try “I am sorry” instead. If you screwed up, be it by scratching his favorite CD or simply saying something hurtful (know when to shut up!), suck it up and apologize. But you shouldn’t be the only one apologizing. If your man messes up – and of course he does – you should be hearing those three little words coming from his lips. One word of caution….don’t apologize all the time since it becomes annoying and will lose it’s true meaning.

You shouldn’t be the only one following these three golden rules to relationship bliss. Get your man on board – just leave this article lying around the house, with key passages highlighted. He’ll get the point. With both of you following these tips, your relationship will be on the path to perfection.

When Relationships Go Bad

How are you going to admit this to people? Your perfect relationship, the one that was destined to last forever … it’s over. What went wrong? How could you have let something so wonderful just slip through your fingers without even realizing it?

The truth is relationships fail for all sorts of reasons. However, there are a top few that tend to permeate stories of love gone wrong.

Money

It’s been said over and over again – “money is the root of all evil.” Whether or not that is entirely true, it is indeed at the root of many relationship problems. Both partners need to be on the same page as far as money is concerned. Issues can arise when one person is a saver and the other is a spender. Any major purchases should be discussed and agreed upon prior to buying. Even daily expenditures can become a problem. Be sure you both understand where the money is coming from in your relationship and where it will go.

Communication

At the heart of money and all other issues is generally a lack of communication. Some couples don’t talk about things that bother them. Others talk, but their conversations tend to deteriorate into arguments. Another group tends to assume their partners can read their minds and should know what is at the heart of any problem. Obviously, this isn’t the case.

Putting the time and the effort into reaching a level of communication that involves equal parts speaking and listening, as well as a healthy dose of understanding and a heavy coating of thick skin can go a long way towards keeping a relationship happy.

Selfishness

Just talking about a problem isn’t enough. Every problem needs a resolution. Even the best communicators can fail at this point. If either side (or worse, both sides) refuse to budge, all the talking in the world won’t fix things. Relationships require compromise and a lot of it. Even if a couple is perfectly in synch on every issue for a long time, eventually they will run across something they don’t see eye to eye on. This is where compromise becomes necessary. Both people need to be willing to give a little so they can reach a decision they are both able to live with.

Family

While it is wonderful to paint a picture of your relationship as existing in its own little bubble, both people involved have families who were with them long before they met each other and will likely stick around for the remainder of their lives. The importance of this group of people cannot be ignored. They can be friends, confidantes, or even the measure against which your relationship is compared. Remember the old saying– “you don’t just marry the person, you marry the family.” Do not dismiss their family as unimportant. Do not try to break the bonds that exist between them. Instead, try to form your own bonds with the other person’s family. If that isn’t possible, at least try to keep your feelings about them from destroying the relationship you hold dear.

There are certainly other problems that can affect and destroy relationships, but the above four are often at the heart of the issue. If those are kept in check, everything else can be dealt with as it comes along, and your relationship is likely to last as long as you want it to.

One Surefire Way To Mess Up Any Date

You’ve been out on a few dates recently, but none of them seem to be working out. You don’t seem to have a problem actually getting the date, but somehow the second date never comes. What are you doing wrong? Are you breaking some kind of dating rule?

Probably. You’re probably breaking the biggest date rule of them all: learning how to communicate. Learning how to communicate effectively is the single best way of getting asked out on a second date. Communicating badly, which can be done in several different ways, is a surefire way to mess up any date, regardless of how much thought and effort you’ve put into trying to make it a success.

What you need to remember when going out on a date is that you want the other person to get a better idea of the kind of person you are, without talking too much or too little. People who talk about themselves too much, are a real turn off. Not only that, but they’re annoying. For some people it’s in their nature to talk about themselves, and yet other people babble, because they’re nervous, which is natural. Instead, get the other person to talk about himself or herself, and maintain some mystery. By doing this, the other person will want a second date, just to learn more about you.

Talking too little is another surefire way to mess up any date. Your dating partner doesn’t want to go out on a date with a manikin! They want you to talk, make them laugh and they want to get a little insight into who you are and what you’re all about. Make it easier for them, and open up a little.

People love to laugh. Laughter is infectious, and sexy. This doesn’t mean you have to be the next Chris Rock, it just means you should try to loosen up and enjoy yourself. Tell your date a few funny stories or a joke to liven things up a bit. If you can make him or her laugh, you’re half way to getting a second date.

Just remember to be yourself. A surefire way to mess up any date is to be a fake, which is another communication problem. Be confident, slightly mysterious and make them laugh. Those are the keys to any successful date and the path towards a second.

What Makes A Bad Relationship?

Are you in a relationship right now? If you are, is it going smoothly or is it going through very rough times? Not all relationships are alike; there are always good relationships and bad relationships. How you and your partner will handle the relationship will determine if it is a bad relationship or if it is a good one and going smoothly. If you are in a bad relationship right now, perhaps you’re wondering how your romantic relationship took a sudden turn. You might have asked yourself what you have done wrong or what your shortcomings were. Here are some things that you can think about why you have a bad relationship:

Lack of Communication

Communication is an important part of every relationship. Lack of communication can make a romantic relationship turn into a bad relationship because this keeps both you and your partner from having a clear understanding of what is really going on and why a certain problem is happening.

Aside from this, it also creates more conflicts since you don’t know exactly what the other wants and expects from the relationship. Keeping oneself in silence when a problem in the relationship arises will not do you any good but instead it will aggravate the problem. It is not a good idea that you do not open up about what you really feel or how your partner feels. If both of you continue to be in silence, expect your bad relationship to turn into something worse.

Infidelity and Dishonesty

Infidelity and dishonesty are two words that are often associated with each other. If a person is unfaithful, he or she is dishonest in so many ways.

Lots of break-ups nowadays are due to infidelity. If you find out that your partner is unfaithful to you, of course this can lead to a serious fight and more heated arguments. For sure, your initial reaction will be so outraged that you will not be able to listen to reasons anymore. Upon knowing your partner’s infidelity, you will come to realize some of the dishonest answers that he or she gave you in the past when you ask about some important issues.

Your once happy and romantic relationship will now turn into a bad relationship because there is one important element which is lacking and that is trust. You begin to become more suspicious and jealous so from then your arguments will go in circles which can eventually lead to breakup.

Pride

Pride is another main reason to have a bad relationship. Conflicts and petty fights are part of every relationship so you should not be devastated if you and your partner encounter and go through these from time to time. There is nothing wrong in having arguments because you are able to voice your views and opinions about an issue.

However, having these become more of a problem when you let your pride take over instead of being humble and realizing your mistake. Pride will never do you good if you are in a relationship. You should always know how to ask for forgiveness if you made a mistake or give way if you think that what your partner says will be beneficial to you and to the relationship.

These are just some of the things that can make a bad relationship. If you think that one or all these is the reason why you are now in a bad relationship, perhaps you should start reassessing yourself and the whole situation in order to save it.

What’s The Point? Understanding Women

Women and men communicate differently with women being more verbal and vocal and men not so much. Women are also much more emotional and many would “argue” in an entirely different language altogether. And some (okay, most) would say that they encode what they mean or are trying to say behind frivolous words and phrases.

But, if you’ve got one of these beguiling creatures in you life, it’s up to YOU to figure her out and figure out what she really means, especially if you want to keep her.

Apologies: Just because she apologizes doesn’t mean she thinks she was wrong (in fact she probably doesn’t believe she was). All it really means is that she’s initiating the reconciliation, and the LEAST she expects you to do is admit your faults and say you’re sorry too.

Weight Issues: Most women want and need to be affirmed and want to know that they are still attractive to their man. So, when she asks if she looks fat, she’s simply fishing for compliments and wants to know you think of her as beautiful. Make sure your answer is honest BUT accentuates her attractiveness and her appeal (In fact, if you don’t like how she looks, you may want to say, you look lovely in that but I tend to prefer you in a dress, or pants, or in that red outfit, etc)

Let’s go: She may start hinting that she’s tired or has lots to do tomorrow. She may even suggest that you stay behind and have a good time. Dude, that’s your cue to get ready to go.

Kidding Around: She may be complimenting your sense of humor and your disposition with nieces and nephews, but in reality she wants to know your thoughts on kids, having some of your own, and how soon. Even if you don’t foresee having children in the immediate future, keep in mind that ladies like to look ahead, well ahead, so, if you’re not opposed to the idea (even if it is down the road) give her the answer she’s fishing for, or come up with an equally indirect response of your own.

I’m Fine: She gives every indication that there may be something wrong, but when you ask she assures you it’s “nothing”. Well guys, you just may be damned if you do and damned if you don’t. If you take it at face value that everything is status quo, she’ll continue being annoyed, but if do your job and identify the problem, you just may be in for a fight. But, remember she’s WAITING for you to figure it out and to be given the chance to get it off her chest.

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