Happiness is a gift only you can give yourself – Do you ever wonder when walking down the street, if people crossing your path are happy?  Do you ever wonder why you are, or are not happy? Do you ever wonder why it’s so hard to stay happy?  Happiness is not something that happens naturally. My secret for happiness comes from my relationships with family, friends and those closest to me, but not without my relationship with Jesus Christ.  I discovered that for me, true happiness can only be achieved through God.  Knowing who He is and what He has done for me, has allowed me to recognize happiness.  I respect others choices to believe as they wish, but for me, I choose to believe in Jesus Christ.

Right now I am under attack with happiness as a wife.  I have never been completely happy in my marriage, and my situation is due solely to my choice.  I married someone unequally yoked, and now I’m living with the consequences.  For me, there is no real right or wrong in my decision, there is good or bad consequences.  As a Christian woman, I knew I should have married a Christian man that believes as I do.  However, as many Christian women do, I didn’t heed to the Word and married thinking I could change him.  I tried to change, what could not be changed through me.  As I constantly strive to be a Godly woman,  living with a nonbeliever that doesn’t comprehend or respect my relationship with the Lord, is very difficult.  My husband is a good person.  He figures that if he pays the bills, doesn’t smoke, drink or hang out with his buddies, that should be sufficient.  He even had me thinking it was enough, so I felt guilty and tried to play the role of a perfect wife.  I did all the right things, even if it meant forgetting myself.  He’s still unreceptive to my thoughts or needs.  Most of the time I feel invisible.  Again, like most Christian women married to a nonbeliever —- I prayed, pleaded and cried out to the Lord for guidance!  I thought if my husband had a relationship with God, then I could have completely happiness.  I thought this, only until I read “HOW TO BE A HAPPY WIFE OF AN UNSAVED HUSBAND” by Linda Davis.  After reading this book I realized I was doing it all wrong. Not because Linda says so in her book, but because it all makes sense.  I realized that you can’t change, what doesn’t want to be changed.

I still pray that my husband realizes the need for a relationship with God, but I do not dwell on it or allow it to drag me down.  Linda’s book taught me to grow my own relationship with God, so that I can continue to be happy.  I know now, that my husband will have a relationship with God when the time is right.  I have resorted to the fact that my happiness comes from within me and my faith. –– Now it’s time for you to find WHERE your happiness comes from. No matter what type of relationship you are in, you deserve to be happy!

Never lose hope and don’t try to control what is not in your control.  I learned it the hard way!  If you read “HOW TO BE A HAPPY WIFE OF AN UNSAVED HUSBAND” or other books focused on happiness by Linda Davis, maybe you can find your own answers.  I found mine while living with an unsaved husband.  God bless you Now and Forever!!!! REMEMBER!  God… is the blessed controller of all things, the king over all kings and the master of all masters.  (I Timothy 6:15)

An – InTence Mind

If you’ve been watching the news, you’ve probably heard of big sports stars, politicians, and others getting in trouble for “sexting” outside their marriages.

But what you probably didn’t know is that there are tens of thousands of women and men around the world using simple little text messages inside their relationships to create amazing romance, intimacy and passion literally at  the push of a button.

Text The Romance Back?

Relationship expert Michael Fiore created a step by step system for using tiny little text messages to create a private “intimate channel” between you and the man or woman in your life… even if you don’t have much time
together (due to kids and jobs) or if your lover doesn’t seem very “romantic” now.

“The great thing about texting is that it’s private and you can do it anywhere” says Fiore. “Just by sending a few tiny little text messages you can ‘wake up’ the romantic center of your partner’s mind… give them a private ‘text massage’, tell them how you really feel, and really create an amazing level of heat… just by pushing a few buttons on your phone.”

Proven To Work On National TV

Fiore was forced to put his money where his mouth is when he was featured on the Valentine’s Day edition of The Rachael Ray Show. Live, in front of millions of viewers, Fiore showed a couple how to use his “romantic texting” techniques to amazing affect. Every woman in the audience sighed and Rachael herself said that Michael gave her “chills.”

Why do we worry so much?  We worry about not knowing what’s ahead.  We are anxious about our careers, our friends, our relationships, our partners – the list could go on forever.  Can we really ever be content or worry free?  What would it take to get us there?

Well, I have discovered a secret that works for me! I’ve learned that the only way to truly be completely content is through my Faith.   You see, I have never had much in life, but I have always had just enough.  Sometimes, even a little more than just enough, but somehow, I always found myself wanting more with the excuse that I needed it.  How do you cope when you can’t compete with your neighbor?  Do you get mad? Do you feel it’s unfair? Do you even envy them?  I can sincerely say I have never envied anyone for having more, but sometimes, I have thought it unfair.  I have even found myself asking God, “WHY?  Why do they have more?  Why do they seem to have it so  much easier then I?  Why can they get the latest model vehicle and I still have to drive around in my beat up car?”  Believe me; trying to keep up with the Jones can take an emotional toll on you.  I’ve been there, done that, and it’s not WORTH it!!!!

We begin to lose focus on what should really be important to us and by the time we look back, it’s too late, we realize our lives have flashed before us.  We have nothing to show for and feel empty and unfulfilled.

My relationship with God and my family have taught me to be content.  Sure I’ve made many mistakes, as have most of us, but what has helped me get passed my mistakes, is my faith.   I have learned to recognize my errors, repent, and move forward.   Our relationships with our spouses, our children, our friends, partners,  boyfriends, etc, should be what matters most.

Sure it’s been a struggle for me to let go and be free from anxiety and worry.  Trust me when I say, I still deal with it today.  When I’m feeling the attack and my walls are crumbling around me, I seek out my support group, God, my family, my sister’s in Christ and my closest and most truthful friends.  Those friends that will tell me the truth, not the ones that will tell me what I want to hear!  Thank the Lord for friends.  Sometimes I think, with friends like that, who needs enemies!  Well, like it or not, we need them.  Those are the friends you can count on.  When I begin to “freak out,” as my kids would say - I remember this verse:

I decided to join the women’s study group at my church and they were scrutinizing a book called “Calm My Anxious Heat” by Linda Dillow (A Woman’s Guide to Finding Contentment).  Boy was I in for a real treat.  This book not only spoke to my heart, but it inspired me to write this page.  It tells you, Yes You!! Reading this right now! What the solution is for Calming Your Anxious Heart.  We all have anxiety in our life, but how we deal with it is what makes the difference.  This book will guide you to breaking free from that horrible feeling.  If you want to learn how to truly be content, I recommend you read this book.

God bless you I’ll be writing to you soon.

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An ~ InTence Mind

It’s free. While there are websites that require payment for membership, still there are numerous free cougar dating websites. Nothing is better than free.  Free dating websites do not require financial commitments and registering is quick and easy and can be accomplished in less than five minutes.

• Finding a cougar on free online dating sites has become more popular especially with the advent of internet. Men seeking companionship of older women have sought the opportunity of meeting one in the websites where cougars have signed up to also meet a potential mate. Surveys have shown that cougars are more romantic and emotionally stable when it comes to relationships. More men prefer dating older women today than ever before.
•  Another reason why men finds cougars online is that online dating caters to the specific needs of the participants who signed up in the website. The cougars-cubs relationship can be developed in the web because it is specific in catering this kind of relationship.  In online dating sites, better results are achieved because the cougars or the cubs can choose the kind of person they are looking for. The time spent for getting-to-know is shortened because of the profile says it all. The cougar or t cubs can easily choose the person he or she is interested in.
• Free on line dating connects people from any parts of the world. There is a wider opportunity of meeting the perfect cougar or cubs for the searchers. The chance is almost limitless as it goes beyond race, nationality, and distance. Free online dating provides for searches of partners in wider criteria such as physical appearance, interest, lifestyle preferences, character and hobbies. The cubs on the other hand have the option to choose from a different age range for cougars, and such other preferences. The search can be vague or specific depending as desired and finding matches is easier and saves a lot of time and effort.
• Lastly, finding free cougar dating site is helpful to maximize the chances of finding the potential mate and is still a very useful venue for starting a successful relationship.

1.  Be sure you are looking at the right place.
2.  Sure, cougars may be found literally anywhere because they look like just your mom or your aunt, only hotter.  In short they can be in the grocery, the subway or the bus station.  But, there are proven two places in finding a potential cougar date: First at the bars or clubs and second, from on line dating websites.
3. Be sure you have the right intentions.
4. It must be remembered that cougars are “cougars” because they are older than you.  They have a lot more experience in dating so expect that they somehow get even your slightest body language. There are cougars that are looking for a boy toy or to be in a relationship with younger man, while there are those who are just want to spend a good time with a younger to guy to relive those fun-under-the-sun days into their lives after 20 years of boring married life.
5. Be sure you don’t bring up the “age gap” topic.
6. Cougars are old enough to know that she is called a “cougar” because she is interested in or flirting with, or will eventually date a younger man. In short, there is no need for you to rub the “age gap” thing in because they already get it. What you should do is to convince your cougar date that you are really interested in her as an attractive woman.
7. Be sure to take her to the right place on your first date.

This way you will have plenty of time to get to know each other. It is important that you treat her just like areal lady that she is.  And just because she is older and richer, it doesn’t mean she has to pay for the bill.  Be a man. Finally, just be yourself, because dating a cougar can be so much fun if you know how.

“Attraction is not a choice.”
-David DeAngelo author of Double Your Dating

Interesting quote, but what does this mean to us guys? In short, women are conditioned to respond to certain signals, traits, and physical characteristics. It is not that they CHOOSE to be attracted to bad boys, or athletes, or wealthy businessmen. Rather, evolution has conditioned them to be attracted to these types of men, because they execute the right actions and behaviors that send off attraction signals in women’s brains. Talk about having chemistry!

The good news is, You don’t HAVE to be wealthy, athletic, or a bad boy to successfully attract women. You just have to ACT like them. You just have to know what behaviors, attitudes, and actions they have that WORK in impressing and seducing women.

There are 10 laws of attraction every man must know, but as I only have a limited space, I’m only going to detail the first three here. For the remaining seven, check out the “How to Be Irresistible to Women: The Mastery Series” course.

Now, onto the 3 laws of attraction!

Rule #1: Demonstrate High Social Status

There are lots of great ways to do this, including peacocking, which is a popular term for dressing up in outrageous outfits and hair styles; being energetic; and using your popularity–the principle of social proof. When women see you socializing with bartenders, managers, and club/bar owners, this proves that you are popular–and desirable.

So get to know everyone at the places you go to: the party hosts, the bartenders, the owners, the managers, everyone. When women notice you’re in a position of importance and popularity, they WILL become attracted to you–even if they don’t realize it!

Rule #2: Make Impressions

A great way to attract a woman is to make a memorable impressions. It doesn’t matter how good you look, how tall you are, how wealthy you are–all you have to do is leave a good memory of who you are. Make a woman remember you. You can do this in a number of ways, including:

* Ask how she’s doing with confidence

A simple, “Hey, what’s up?” in a relaxed tone goes a long way towards making a girl remember you. This is especially effective with retail clerks and waitresses. Don’t act too interested in what she has to say–just say it in a slow, cool, DEEP tone of voice that sends their emotional chemicals buzzing! Say this with a relaxed, open body and good posture. The truth is, when you understand what body language and tonality cues work, you will attract women with ease.

* TEASE her

Show your confidence in yourself by joking about a girl’s hair or occupation. You can say, “Wow, you put a lot of effort into that hairstyle, huh?” or if she says she’s a model or dancer, say, “Huh, just a model, eh? Well, that’s nice.” Acting unimpressed, ironically, will make her impressed. Girls are used to having guys fawn over them, so to do the opposite of what she expects will go a long way, to your advantage. This proves you don’t need any woman’s validation, to feel attractive. Hate to say it, but women want a man who doesn’t need them to feel good about himself. Don’t believe anything else.

* Joke About Other Guy’s Failure

This is a great technique where you can use other guys’ pickup failures to your advantage. If a guy says something really cheesy or stupid, just say to her, “Man, you must get that all the time.” Or just go up to her and say, “See that guy over there? He’s got the WORST BO in the world!”

Find out more methods, including how to make her laugh and tell great stories, by ordering my Mastery Course now. You can start with the free How to Be Irresistible to Women six-part audio course and move from there.

Rule #3: Be Funny in An Attractive, Cocky Way

As you can tell from the methods above, humor is great way of attracting women. Women just seem to love laughing, and when you think about it, you can’t blame them: Who wants to be with a boring guy? Especially if they’re thinking of settling down with a guy in a relationship, they want a guy who can keep things interesting, humorous, and not too serious. Humor does just that. Some great ways to make a girl laugh include:

Self-Deprecation

This is where karaoke is great–you can poke fun at yourself and be a clown. It shows you’re comfortable with yourself, fun, and not too serious.

Wit

As long as you don’t use it against her too much, wit can be a great thing. It shows intelligence and humor.

Observational Humor

Observing funny things like a clumsy waiter or a guy whose face looks like his dog’s is a great way of making a girl laugh.

Exaggeration

Telling a great story and showcasing how ridiculous something was, is a surefire way to leave an impression. Having a lot of anecdotes ready to tell a girl is a great way of making an impression, and attracting her.

Cocky comedy

This amazing technique, pioneered by David DeAngelo, is an incredible way of both demonstrating high social status, and of making her laugh. Generally, you want to break her balls and BREAK HER STATE. Take her out of her element, tease her in front of her group. Show that you don’t need her, and especially that you don’t need her for self-validation. Very powerful stuff, and something I discuss in detail in my audio lesson on Building Higher Status.

There are all kinds of additional ways to attract women, and truthfully, not enough can be written on the subject. But this should give you a start to your understanding of what women want. To find out more, check out my dynamic “How to Be Irresistible to Women: The Mastery Series” course on how to attract the women YOU want.

It’s YOUR turn to begin an exciting, successful new lifestyle!

James

Host of “How To Be Irresistible To Women Mastery Series”

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About the author:

James is the author of “How to Be Irresistible to Women PREMIUM” and host of the “How to Be Irresistible to Women MASTERY SERIES.” His years of dating experience and international travel have tutored him in the art of meeting and seducing females the world over and introduces a worldly approach to dating and developing real relationships necessary for the modern man.

The “How to Be Irresistible to Women PREMIUM” and “MASTERY SERIES” packages offer guys like you a dynamic and comprehensive toolkit to transform your dating success and establish a real and exciting relationship with the kind of woman you never thought you could get. James has thousands of satisfied customers worldwide who have used his learning system to help them change their lives.

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It’s a story that you might find strangely familiar. Don’t be alarmed.

Once upon a time, there was a woman who was very attracted to a particular man.

At first, he was just another attractive man… but the more she got to know him, the more she began to feel attracted to him… and the more time she spent with him, the more that attraction grew into a deep emotional attachment and affection for him.

But there was one problem.

As her emotional attachment grew stronger and stronger, she also grew more and more insecure.

Why?

Because she couldn’t tell whether or not he felt the same way towards her.

Sometimes he would talk to her and say things that led her to believe that they shared a special connection, but nothing ever progressed past the “friendship” stage.

There was an occasional glance, an occasional email or call from him… and a few times, he even opened up about something personal or emotional, and invited her “inside” for a little while.

But something was wrong with the picture.

He just wasn’t acting like a man who was “falling in love”. He was acting like a friend, but at times, even more distant than a friend would be.

And things seemed to be hot and cold. Sometimes he would look at her and talk to her, and sometimes he would ignore her and close himself off.

The insecurity that she felt from all this, became a spiral that amplified itself… and the more insecure she became, the more afraid she grew of “screwing things up” or “scaring him off”, by starting conversations or asking him if he was interested in her and why he didn’t ask her out.

Plus, the more insecure she became, the less time he seemed to want to spend with her.

After spending days and nights obsessing over this guy, the woman finally arrived at the conclusion that if he only knew how SHE FELT, that he would feel the same way.

So she made a bold move.

She TOLD HIM how she felt.

She confessed her feelings and let him know that she wanted to be with him.

He responded by flirting with her and he spent some time alone with her, and they even kissed and held each other.

But soon after, he quickly withdrew, didn’t call her and wasn’t really “available” to her.

This only confused the woman more.

She didn’t know how to take it…

Did it mean that he really loved her too, but that he was afraid of something?

Did it mean that he wasn’t ready for a long-term relationship?

Did it mean that he didn’t love her, and that he was trying to give her a hint?

Did it mean that she hadn’t tried hard enough?

Did it mean that she needed to put everything on the line and REALLY let him know how she felt?

She finally decided that she couldn’t go on like this anymore… she had to be with him.

She had to make sure that he knew just how much she wanted to be with him… so she took a big step, bought him a symbolic gift and wrote him a letter… again confessing her feelings.

And then, something unthinkable happened.

Either he didn’t reply at all… (Ouch!)

Or he replied and she connected with him on an emotional and physical level for a brief time, but then he backed away.

Then she called him a couple of times, the following week before reaching him.

He made an excuse about being very busy and said, “I’ll try to give you a call soon, I have to go”… and hung up… but she never got a call back.

Over the following months, the woman tried desperately to understand what went wrong… and what happened.

THE END…

OK, I’m back.

Now, wasn’t that a sweet story?

Heartwarming, huh?

I know; I should keep my day job, and not take-up writing romance novels…

Now, let’s talk about that story.

That story is basically a MYTH.

But I’m not talking about FICTION here.

I’m talking about a story that rings true for lots of women. A story that is timeless. A story that resonates at a deep level, because you can IDENTIFY with it.

And why does this particular story resonate for some women?

Because lots of women have been there in one way or another… at one time or another… and many have been there OFTEN in their lives.

Another thing that gives this particular story a lot of power, is the powerful negative emotions that it stirs… as a result of the powerful negative experiences that it brings back…

Stories and situations like this one, really FASCINATE me.

They fascinate me, because I see them as an opportunity to UNDERSTAND and SOLVE the puzzles that they represent.

In this particular situation, I think there is a solution.

It lies in understanding a SECRET that lots of WOMEN DON’T GET.

That secret comes down to the reality that if a man isn’t ATTRACTED to a woman, all of her attempts to confess her love, convince him to like her and court her, BACKFIRE.

In other words, they not only DON’T WORK; they actually make things WORSE.

In other words, the very things that a woman does to try to make a man LIKE HER, make him NOT like her.

They make him run.

All of those great intentions and emotional dedication actually cause the woman feeling them, to do things that make the man go away.

It sucks!

But it’s a strangely common dynamic, that also takes place inside dating situations and new relationships without women (or men) really being aware of it, and understanding what’s going on.

And I hope that by explaining the process of how this happens to you, that I’ll help you avoid this painful situation in your own future…

And maybe you can start to understand what’s going on a little better, if you think about what it’s like when a man you’re NOT attracted to, desperately wants your attention, affection and your time.

Have you ever had a guy pursue you?

As he’s trying to get your attention, approval and affection, all of his pleading and effort just seems to bug you more and make you want to get away.

Even if all he’s doing, is telling you great things about yourself and how he feels about you?

Strange and interesting…

Choices And The Paradox Of Attraction

I’m always fascinated by the idea that we humans don’t always understand the message that we’re communicating to others…

So often we think that because we WANT to communicate a message, that others are going to NATURALLY understand what we’re trying to say.

Have you ever seen a woman who dresses over-the-top sexy and wears way to much make-up?

Have you ever thought to yourself, “I don’t think that her appearance is communicating the message to men that she thinks it is”…?

Yeah, I have too.

Well, here’s the deal:

If you do something to “let a man know how you feel” … but he isn’t open to the situation at that time, or he isn’t ATTRACTED to you, then it’s going to backfire.

It’s going to trigger a feeling for the man, that I like to call the “Instant Ewww”.

The “Instant Ewww” is just as powerful as the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION.

Once a man feels it, YOU’RE DONE.

It’s over.

It’s like hammering a RAILROAD SPIKE into the coffin.

Once a man feels the “Instant Ewww”, he’ll start behaving differently.

In short, he’ll back off or even disappear.

So where did I get the concept of the “Instant Ewww”?

I got it from watching WOMEN.

I have actually heard SEVERAL women use the word “Ewww”, when describing how they felt about a guy that was “confessing his love”… and of course, these were guys that weren’t loved in return by the woman.

Men do the same kind of thing with a woman they’re not attracted to.

Often they try to be “nice” about it. They let the attention pump up their ego a bit, and then they create what is often an unconscious barrier in their mind, that closes off communication or contact with her.

And the resulting vacuum sound you hear, is what’s happening as any ATTRACTION and interest he might have felt, evaporates.

So what causes the “Instant Ewww”?

And why would a man feel it, towards a woman who was trying to be nice… a woman who was giving him attention, a gift or telling him how she feels?

Because if you think about it from HIS perspective, you’ll realize that the moment you do something to “confess”, you’ve created a TURNING POINT in the relationship.

Up until that point, you were harmless.

I mean, men know when they are getting some “special attention” from a woman.

And they usually know it from the beginning.

But now that you’ve started pursuing him and talking about how you feel, you’ve created a NEGATIVE TENSION that can be VERY uncomfortable.

You’ve triggered an emotion that can actually repel a man and make him even more detached from his emotions.

Here’s the thing…

You can’t “make a man like you” or “change how he feels about you”, by doing nice things for him.

Doing “nice” things for a man who isn’t attracted to you, HURTS you. It backfires. Worse, it creates the “Instant Ewww” feeling, that makes it so he’ll perhaps NEVER like you.

Men are the worst at this, by the way.

They make this mistake over and over again in life, because they’re doing what MAKES SENSE to them. They’re doing it, because they don’t have an understanding of ATTRACTION.

I mean, if you have a friend and you like them, and you want to make them like you more… and you do some nice things for them, they will probably like you more.

On the other hand…

If you have a man that you “like” in a romantic way, and he doesn’t “feel it” for you, and you do something nice for him, because you want HIM to like you more, it will BACKFIRE… and he will not only NOT like you more, but he will most likely distance himself from you.

Women think that they need to communicate verbally when they like a man… as if that’s part of the necessary process of getting a guy.

In their minds, it goes like this:

Like him>Tell him you like him>He likes you

Well, remember… if you follow this pattern, yourself, with men who aren’t already ATTRACTED to you, then it’s going to BACKFIRE.

If he’s not into you, then it goes like THIS:

He thinks of you as a friend>You tell him you like him>He gets the “Instant Ewwws” and withdraws…

THE ANSWER

There are really TWO answers to this problem.

The first answer, is what to do if you’re in a situation where you like a particular guy, but you don’t know if he likes you back.

DON’T GET HEAVY WITH HIM.

Don’t buy him a big gift, do something nice to show him how much you think about him or write him a love letter…

Don’t send him a note to his work that says, “From your secret admirer”.

Don’t call him several times, without hearing from him.

And DON’T CONFESS YOUR LOVE for him.

If you want to know how he feels about you, do something to ATTRACT HIM and see how he reacts instead of telling him you love him and hearing the crickets chirp as you wait for his response.

As a rule of thumb, don’t get heavier than HIM. Use SIGNALS from him to find out how he feels… and if you don’t know how to read and create those signals, then LEARN.

Asking a man if he’s interested in you in a romantic way, or if you are “his type”, will actually DESTROY the chances that his attraction and interest in you will grow.

Really.

The SECOND answer, is to not get into this particular situation in the FIRST PLACE. Avoid it entirely.

And how does one do that?

One does that by creating ATTRACTION from the beginning.

One does that by understanding the dynamics of how and why men have the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION triggered.

One does that by knowing what you’re doing FROM THE BEGINNING.

And what’s the best way to learn THAT skill?

I thought you’d never ask…

Well, I’ve written about attraction before and I’ll write about it again.

In my eBook, I talk about some of the very best ways to learn how to make man feel ATTRACTION for you.

But above and beyond the meeting and attracting men “stuff”, I also talk about how attraction, communication, psychology and emotions all play into the longer term “stuff” around dating, and creating a solid foundation for a future relationship.

In my eBook, I go deep inside the mind of a man to tell you the secrets and truths that lots of women will never know about.

The eBook is called Catch Him and Keep Him.

I’ve spent several years now, studying the ways that women (and men) who are “naturals”, communicate using their words, voice tone and body language.

The way they integrate all these, makes them MAGNETIC to be around. And you probably know what I’m talking about, if you know any women who seem “lucky in love”. Where everything involving men seems to come easily and effortlessly to them.

And I’ll tell you… it’s not magic.

You don’t have to be gorgeous or young.

And you don’t have to be LUCKY.

What you DO have to do is LEARN.

It’s a skill, and I honestly believe that ANY woman can learn it if she wants.

But you’re not likely to figure it out by “trial and error”. Many of the keys to making men feel ATTRACTION and want to be around you for the long-term aren’t “obvious”, at all.

In fact, many of them make no sense… and they’re the LAST thing you’d do in a particular situation, if you didn’t know the SECRETS.

For more about these secrets, go check out my eBook.

It’s jam-packed with insights, concepts, tips and secrets.

Go here to check it out:

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Thanks and best of luck in life and love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

Recent questions:

I broke up with my Boyfriend yesterday. Then i made a huge mistake by telling him that i want him back. I really like this guy and i REALLY want him back. What do i do??

Are you wondering if breaking up with him was the right move because you’re having trouble moving on? Instead of spending time thinking about all the ways you screwed up in your relationship with your boyfriend, or think about all the ways he was special, and how you’ll never find anyone who understands you quite the same way he did, you should focus on what you want and how to have the kind of relationship you deserve. There are three things you do:

Recognize what wasn’t working for you - instead of thinking only of the “good times” and how much you miss him, consider all the things he did and said that made you fee linsecure, anxious or frustrated – feelings that one way or another probably contributed to the end of the relationship.

Stop “Losing Yourself” in your relationship - You probably gave up a lot to be with your guy. You gave up time with your friends and family.You gave up doing things you used to love doing- things like reading, exercising, going on hikes,visiting art shows, whatever. You gave it up in order to spend time with him. You gave it up to make him feel comfortable. You gave things up because the relationship seemed important, and you wanted it to work. Big mistake. You need to have time for people and interests outside your relationship.

Before you can move on, whether it’s getting back together with your boyfriend or starting a new relationship, you should stop putting your life on hold instead of realizing your own needs.

You are actually continuing the very thing that helped break your relationship apart, and made you feel unhappy and unfulfilled in the first place.

Behaviors such as the following are sure relationship killers:

1. Pretending you don’t want anything serious either
2. Trying to become his best friend
3. Trying to make him jealous by going out with other guys
4. Calling him names and trying to get him into a relationship with you
5. Start doing things he likes to do, complimenting him, or just trying to win over his affection

Instead of doing the kinds of things mentioned above, you need to ditch these types of behaviors and start to understand how a man’s mind really works.

Biological or instinctual traits have been instilled in men over thousands and millions of years of “conditioning” during mating and courtship rituals with women. When a man is looking for a woman, a part of his instinctual “wiring” unconsciously tells him to look for a woman who is healthy and “fit.”

This means that men are biologically wired to look for, and feel “attracted” to women who have the qualities and traits that indicate a high level of health and “fitness.”

But unfortunately, this “screening process” that’s going on inside a man’s mind is largely unconscious. A man looks at much subtler “cues” about a woman that tell him what to think.

Some of these “cues” are:

-Physical Appearance (the obvious one): If you have a specific hip-to-waist ratio, without consciously “measuring” it, a man will see it and possibly feel a physical attraction

-Health: Things like how white the whites in your eyes are, your scent, and the tone and nature of your skin are all subtle indicators of a healthy immune system. Men find white eyes, certain scents, and smooth skin attractive not because they know they indicate that a woman is healthy and will have a high likelihood of success for offspring, but because they feel attracted to these things for some reason.

-”Emotional Fitness”: If a woman has the kind of attitude and “vibe” about her that is fun to be around, stimulating, exciting, and positive and consistent… then a man unconsciously will see her as a good long-term mate.

If you’d like to learn how men think when it comes to the “dating process”… and how a man really thinks about a woman and getting involved in a real relationship with her, then I’ve got just what you need.

Women who don’t understand what the dating and commitment process is like inside a man’s mind seem to keep running into the same painful situations, frustrations, and traps with men.

The way a man grows close to a woman, the reasons why he chooses her over another woman, and when and why he decides to start sharing himself with her and growing a real and committed relationship is simply different than it is for most women.

One of the biggest “make it or break it” points for women in relationships with men is when you start to grow close and want to move from just a casual and unspoken thing into a deeper and more serious relationship.

If you’ve ever felt “stuck” in your love life because you didn’t know how to break through the “casual dating” stage with a man and move into a real and committed relationship, I can help.

If you know much about men, then you probably already know that the answer with a man in this situation is NOT to ask him for a commitment.

Lots of women try this and become frustrated and baffled when the man they thought they were close to completely pulls away from them and even tries to end the relationship all together.

If you want to grow your relationship with a man, the best way to move into a committed relationship isn’t to come up against his emotional resistance to commitment when you bring it up.

The best relationships that women enjoy most, and that last the longest, are the ones where the man is leading the woman into a committed relationship. But for lots of women, things seem to get terribly turned around.

For the greatest chance at happiness and success with a man, and to be able to quickly and easily move from a casual situation to a real and committed relationship with a man, the answer is to learn:

1) How the commitment process works for him

2) How to make a man want to be with you and lead you in to a committed relationship

3) How to keep your relationship growing and healthy so that you both stay emotionally involved and fulfilled by the relationship

Most women NEVER learn these things, and as a result, they never have the kind of success in dating and relationships with men they really want.

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