Having Fun Keeps A Relationship Alive

We all know how to have fun, at least we used to.  For many adults we seem to have lost the ability to just let go and have some fun, along with some great, big belly laughs.  Unfortunately that lack of fun can have serious negative effects on us, our health, and our relationships. Put some fun back in your relationship. You might save your relationship…and your mind!

Having fun with your partner can be virtually anything that the two of you enjoy together. And if it makes you laugh out loud, that’s even better. You can go to an amusement park, check out the latest comedy at the local movie theater, stay home and play a energetic video game, whatever.  One word of caution though, when playing games together: don’t let your competitiveness become a problem.  This isn’t a competition between you and your partner, it’s a chance for the two of you to share an easy going, fun, time together.

If you are the type of person that is overly competitive (which is almost always a sign of being very insecure and you may want to get some counseling to help you feel better about yourself, so you don’t always have to ‘win’ . You’d be better off sticking to non- competitive fun things with your partner, forget the games for now.

When you really let go and act like a twit that can be a scary thing.  You might be afraid your partner will think you’re weird and make fun of you.  When you can share these times with your partner and you are both acting silly together, that actually builds trust between the two of you.   That is just another bond between the two of you and your relationship is one step to becoming stronger.

When you first started dating your partner, and falling in love, the two of you probably laughed and acted silly all the time.  But as we grow into our relationship, especially when we start living together and start sharing the responsibilities of a household, we seem to have fun with our partners less and less.

One thing you can do to determine how much fun is in your relationship,  is over the course of a week, keep a journal.  Mark down how many things you do with your partner that are pleasant, such as watching a movie together, talking, going for a walk, playing a game, and having sex, etc., versus how many non-fun things you do together such as taking out the trash, talking about your financial situations, talking about troubles at work, etc.

If this ratio of good times vs. bad times is like most relationships, it’s probably way out of balance.  Most couples will have many more of the mundane daily interactions than they will of the fun loving, building a bond interactions. The first step to changing it is to recognize it.

You can strengthen your bond with your partner by putting some fun back into your everyday lives.  It’s not a hard thing to do and you’ll both feel better about yourselves, about each other, and about your relationship…what could be better?

Relationship Breakups Before And After They Happen And How To Cope

When it comes to relationship breakups before and after, there are two questions that need answering.  “Why?” and “What’s next?”

There is no doubt that dealing with relationship breakups before and after they happen, is a very traumatic and stressful time. It doesn’t matter whether you were ready for the relationship to end or not, when it comes to a relationship ending there is still the same trauma, still the same upset.

Now, if your relationship hasn’t actually ended yet, but it’s on the verge of ending, then make sure you do your best to go through the coming days, weeks and months with as little drama as you can possibly manage. One of the classic mistakes that many people make, when faced with an imminent breakup, is to cause drama and upset.  This is an understandable reaction, because they’re upset and devastated at the ending of a relationship that they put so much hope into. However, control is key, especially if you have any hopes of rekindling your relationship in the future. Causing ructus and drama at the onset of the breakup will not help you further down the line.

So in regards to relationship breakups before and after, even if you’re not ready for the relationship to end, agree to the breakup. Let your partner go and wish them well. Tell them that you’re sorry for any mistakes you have made and that you wish you could’ve done things differently, but you accept their decision to end the relationship.

Something else that you should consider in answer to the “Why?” question is this: even if you have no interest in trying to rekindle the relationship, it might still be worthwhile exploring why the relationship ended. Answering this question is really a positive step forward for you and for any future relationship that you may enter.

Look closely at your behavior throughout the relationship. Try and pinpoint moments and incidences where you felt you could’ve handled the situation better. Be as honest with yourself as possible. If you and your ex have parted on fairly good terms then why not ask your ex how they felt you handled yourself in the relationship. Not only will this give you some great insight into how others/your ex sees you, but again, it’s good food for thought for the future.

For some, when it comes to relationship breakups before and after, a wise move is to move on.  Let’s be honest, not all relationships are worth saving.  For a variety of reasons, some relationships are just better over and done with.  If you think your relationship falls into this category, then After the breakup give yourself as much time as you need to grieve the end of your relationship and then do just that, move on!

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Relationship Break Up Advice – How To Save Your Relationship Or Move On

Are you looking for relationship breakup advice?  Then you’re probably feeling as though this is one of the lowest points in your life. Now that may very well be true, but however badly you’re feeling right now, this feeling will pass!  You will get through this!

What you do now, depends on the outcome you’re looking for. If you’re ready for the relationship to be over and have no interest in trying to save the relationship, then then you will go one way. If on the other hand you’re looking for a way to save your relationship, then you will need a whole different set of tips and strategies to make this happen.

Relationship breakup advice for those who want to save their relationship is based on how you handle yourself in the run-up to the breakup and immediately after the breakup. If you are at the point in your relationship where your partner has just announced they want to end the relationship, then my advice to you is to agree to the breakup. Your biggest mistake would be to try and persuade your ex to stay in the relationship and not to leave you.

Agree to the breakup, let your ex go and wish them well. Your plan now is to get yourself together. Yes you’re devastated that the one you love has walked out, but you have to find a way to deal with that devastation and to deal with it in a way that will help you rekindle your relationship in the future.

So spend some time coming to terms with what has happened in the relationship. You need to do this on your own, without your ex. Make no attempt to contact your ex, instead find your friends and your family and let them help you through this upsetting time.

What you can also do is to make peace with yourself. We all make mistakes and depending on the level of your mistake, it is forgivable!  So don’t spend the next few weeks beating yourself up.  When it comes to contacting your ex in a few weeks, you need to be emotionally sound and appealing to pull off the reconciliation.

If you have no interest in rekindling the relationship, then the relationship breakup advice you’re looking for is about finding strategies about how to cope with the trauma.  You need to be able to move on with your life, so above all, give yourself time.  Treat the ending of the relationship almost like a death.

It really doesn’t matter whether you wanted the relationship to end or not. The point is it has ended and there was a time when you had real hopes for the relationship.  Acknowledge that and acknowledge your disappointment that it has ended and you’ll come through this in time.

Emotional Infidelity – Is There Really Such A Thing?

Are you wondering about emotional infidelity, what it is and is it ok if you’re in a relationship?  Well you’re not alone. Many people think about infidelity only on one level: the physical.  In fact it’s true to say, that many people don’t even believe there’s such a thing as emotional infidelity. Well they’re wrong!

First of all let’s define “emotional infidelity!”  This classically occurs when someone in a committed relationship/marriage forms an emotional attachment with a third person outside of the relationship.  This may seem trivial to begin with but it can escalate and become something else – in short, become physical.

So, if you’ve formed a friendship that you cannot tell your spouse/partner about then you should seriously ask yourself why?  To be perfectly honest, you should not have a relationship/friendship with anyone that you cannot openly and honestly discuss with your partner. The minute your partner is shut out of any part of your life there is a potential for distance. With distance comes real and potential problems to your relationship.

This is not to say that you have to tell your spouse/partner about every single part of your day. The distinction here is that if you are deliberately hiding a friendship with a third person, and hiding the nature of that friendship, from your spouse/partner!

What you should also consider, when it comes to emotional infidelity, is how your partner would feel if they ever found out?  Perhaps you are sharing intimate details of your life with your partner with your secret friend? How would your partner feel about that?  Knowing that any problems the two of you are having are being openly discussed by you with someone outside of your relationship?  Not only that, someone who could quickly become a destructive element within your relationship?

Emotional infidelity, might seem like a little bit of harmless fun when you first set out but it can quickly and dangerously escalate into something that can seriously threaten your relationship. You will find that your partner will have picked up on the fact that you’re even more distant than usual and this is because you are sharing with someone else and pretty soon you’re thinking about that someone else more and more.

Once this happens it can often be a short step towards a full on physical relationship and that’s why any emotional attachment that your partner does not know about it so dangerous.

If there is a problem in your relationship then it is best sorted out between you and your partner and if need be with professional outside help, or perhaps even with trusted friends.

Make no mistake, emotional infidelity is as dangerous as physical infidelity.

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