HAPPY WIFE

Hello Everyone! Welcome to the New Year!  Last year had many struggles and set backs, especially with finances, but God gave me more then I deserved.  When times get hard and the battle begins, I remember   (Philippians 4:11-13) I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstance.  I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty.  I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.  I can do everything through him who give me strength.

Happiness is a gift only you can give yourself – Do you ever wonder when walking down the street, if people crossing your path are happy?  Do you ever wonder why you are, or are not happy? Do you ever wonder why it’s so hard to stay happy?  Happiness is not something that happens naturally. My secret for happiness comes from my relationships with family, friends and those closest to me, but not without my relationship with Jesus Christ.  I discovered that for me, true happiness can only be achieved through God.  Knowing who He is and what He has done for me, has allowed me to recognize happiness.  I respect others choices to believe as they wish, but for me, I choose to believe in Jesus Christ.

Right now I am under attack with happiness as a wife.  I have never been completely happy in my marriage, and my situation is due solely to my choice.  I married someone unequally yoked, and now I’m living with the consequences.  For me, there is no real right or wrong in my decision, there is good or bad consequences.  As a Christian woman, I knew I should have married a Christian man that believes as I do.  However, as many Christian women do, I didn’t heed to the Word and married thinking I could change him.  I tried to change, what could not be changed through me.  As I constantly strive to be a Godly woman,  living with a nonbeliever that doesn’t comprehend or respect my relationship with the Lord, is very difficult.  My husband is a good person.  He figures that if he pays the bills, doesn’t smoke, drink or hang out with his buddies, that should be sufficient.  He even had me thinking it was enough, so I felt guilty and tried to play the role of a perfect wife.  I did all the right things, even if it meant forgetting myself.  He’s still unreceptive to my thoughts or needs.  Most of the time I feel invisible.  Again, like most Christian women married to a nonbeliever —- I prayed, pleaded and cried out to the Lord for guidance!  I thought if my husband had a relationship with God, then I could have completely happiness.  I thought this, only until I read “HOW TO BE A HAPPY WIFE OF AN UNSAVED HUSBAND” by Linda Davis.  After reading this book I realized I was doing it all wrong. Not because Linda says so in her book, but because it all makes sense.  I realized that you can’t change, what doesn’t want to be changed.

I still pray that my husband realizes the need for a relationship with God, but I do not dwell on it or allow it to drag me down.  Linda’s book taught me to grow my own relationship with God, so that I can continue to be happy.  I know now, that my husband will have a relationship with God when the time is right.  I have resorted to the fact that my happiness comes from within me and my faith. –– Now it’s time for you to find WHERE your happiness comes from. No matter what type of relationship you are in, you deserve to be happy!

Never lose hope and don’t try to control what is not in your control.  I learned it the hard way!  If you read “HOW TO BE A HAPPY WIFE OF AN UNSAVED HUSBAND” or other books focused on happiness by Linda Davis, maybe you can find your own answers.  I found mine while living with an unsaved husband.  God bless you Now and Forever!!!! REMEMBER!  God… is the blessed controller of all things, the king over all kings and the master of all masters.  (I Timothy 6:15)

An – InTence Mind

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Why do we worry so much?  We worry about not knowing what’s ahead.  We are anxious about our careers, our friends, our relationships, our partners – the list could go on forever.  Can we really ever be content or worry free?  What would it take to get us there?

Well, I have discovered a secret that works for me! I’ve learned that the only way to truly be completely content is through my Faith.   You see, I have never had much in life, but I have always had just enough.  Sometimes, even a little more than just enough, but somehow, I always found myself wanting more with the excuse that I needed it.  How do you cope when you can’t compete with your neighbor?  Do you get mad? Do you feel it’s unfair? Do you even envy them?  I can sincerely say I have never envied anyone for having more, but sometimes, I have thought it unfair.  I have even found myself asking God, “WHY?  Why do they have more?  Why do they seem to have it so  much easier then I?  Why can they get the latest model vehicle and I still have to drive around in my beat up car?”  Believe me; trying to keep up with the Jones can take an emotional toll on you.  I’ve been there, done that, and it’s not WORTH it!!!!

We begin to lose focus on what should really be important to us and by the time we look back, it’s too late, we realize our lives have flashed before us.  We have nothing to show for and feel empty and unfulfilled.

My relationship with God and my family have taught me to be content.  Sure I’ve made many mistakes, as have most of us, but what has helped me get passed my mistakes, is my faith.   I have learned to recognize my errors, repent, and move forward.   Our relationships with our spouses, our children, our friends, partners,  boyfriends, etc, should be what matters most.

Sure it’s been a struggle for me to let go and be free from anxiety and worry.  Trust me when I say, I still deal with it today.  When I’m feeling the attack and my walls are crumbling around me, I seek out my support group, God, my family, my sister’s in Christ and my closest and most truthful friends.  Those friends that will tell me the truth, not the ones that will tell me what I want to hear!  Thank the Lord for friends.  Sometimes I think, with friends like that, who needs enemies!  Well, like it or not, we need them.  Those are the friends you can count on.  When I begin to “freak out,” as my kids would say - I remember this verse:

I decided to join the women’s study group at my church and they were scrutinizing a book called “Calm My Anxious Heat” by Linda Dillow (A Woman’s Guide to Finding Contentment).  Boy was I in for a real treat.  This book not only spoke to my heart, but it inspired me to write this page.  It tells you, Yes You!! Reading this right now! What the solution is for Calming Your Anxious Heart.  We all have anxiety in our life, but how we deal with it is what makes the difference.  This book will guide you to breaking free from that horrible feeling.  If you want to learn how to truly be content, I recommend you read this book.

God bless you I’ll be writing to you soon.

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