Behaviors such as the following are sure relationship killers:

1. Pretending you don’t want anything serious either
2. Trying to become his best friend
3. Trying to make him jealous by going out with other guys
4. Calling him names and trying to get him into a relationship with you
5. Start doing things he likes to do, complimenting him, or just trying to win over his affection

Instead of doing the kinds of things mentioned above, you need to ditch these types of behaviors and start to understand how a man’s mind really works.

Biological or instinctual traits have been instilled in men over thousands and millions of years of “conditioning” during mating and courtship rituals with women. When a man is looking for a woman, a part of his instinctual “wiring” unconsciously tells him to look for a woman who is healthy and “fit.”

This means that men are biologically wired to look for, and feel “attracted” to women who have the qualities and traits that indicate a high level of health and “fitness.”

But unfortunately, this “screening process” that’s going on inside a man’s mind is largely unconscious. A man looks at much subtler “cues” about a woman that tell him what to think.

Some of these “cues” are:

-Physical Appearance (the obvious one): If you have a specific hip-to-waist ratio, without consciously “measuring” it, a man will see it and possibly feel a physical attraction

-Health: Things like how white the whites in your eyes are, your scent, and the tone and nature of your skin are all subtle indicators of a healthy immune system. Men find white eyes, certain scents, and smooth skin attractive not because they know they indicate that a woman is healthy and will have a high likelihood of success for offspring, but because they feel attracted to these things for some reason.

-”Emotional Fitness”: If a woman has the kind of attitude and “vibe” about her that is fun to be around, stimulating, exciting, and positive and consistent… then a man unconsciously will see her as a good long-term mate.

If you’d like to learn how men think when it comes to the “dating process”… and how a man really thinks about a woman and getting involved in a real relationship with her, then I’ve got just what you need.

Women who don’t understand what the dating and commitment process is like inside a man’s mind seem to keep running into the same painful situations, frustrations, and traps with men.

The way a man grows close to a woman, the reasons why he chooses her over another woman, and when and why he decides to start sharing himself with her and growing a real and committed relationship is simply different than it is for most women.

One of the biggest “make it or break it” points for women in relationships with men is when you start to grow close and want to move from just a casual and unspoken thing into a deeper and more serious relationship.

If you’ve ever felt “stuck” in your love life because you didn’t know how to break through the “casual dating” stage with a man and move into a real and committed relationship, I can help.

If you know much about men, then you probably already know that the answer with a man in this situation is NOT to ask him for a commitment.

Lots of women try this and become frustrated and baffled when the man they thought they were close to completely pulls away from them and even tries to end the relationship all together.

If you want to grow your relationship with a man, the best way to move into a committed relationship isn’t to come up against his emotional resistance to commitment when you bring it up.

The best relationships that women enjoy most, and that last the longest, are the ones where the man is leading the woman into a committed relationship. But for lots of women, things seem to get terribly turned around.

For the greatest chance at happiness and success with a man, and to be able to quickly and easily move from a casual situation to a real and committed relationship with a man, the answer is to learn:

1) How the commitment process works for him

2) How to make a man want to be with you and lead you in to a committed relationship

3) How to keep your relationship growing and healthy so that you both stay emotionally involved and fulfilled by the relationship

Most women NEVER learn these things, and as a result, they never have the kind of success in dating and relationships with men they really want.

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1.)    Be yourself – You won’t be able to keep up a façade forever.  So, don’t start a relationship by playing a role.  You will want to play to your strengths and present your best face to your date.  But don’t try to fool him into thinking you are someone you are not.  First of all, you can’t keep it up for the long haul.  But, more importantly, you don’t want him falling in love with an image.  If you are an outspoken person, it’s best to not temper your views just to make a good impression.  That is not the person you are, so don’t make him think it is.

2.)    Be confident – You are a worthy person and you have a lot to offer.  Many women have low self esteem and they lack the confidence needed to be successful on a date.   But, guys like confident women.  They need to know that they will have a partner.  They don’t want to carry all of the weight in the relationship.  If you are confident, you will have a much higher chance of getting a second date.

3.)    Be positive – No guy wants to hear about how awful your day was, how your mom annoys you, or how your boss doesn’t appreciate your work.  He wants to hear that you have a happy outlook on life.  Face it: who would you rather spend time with, a person who is depressed and down in the dumps all of the time or someone who is optimistic about the future?  That’s his answer too!

4.)    Express your opinions – Too many women are afraid to express their opinions about things for fear of turning a guy off.  But men don’t want doormats.  They want to be with interesting women.  And interesting women have opinions.  While some cavemen may think that a woman must mirror his opinions, a real man is comfortable enough with his own views to appreciate hearing a different perspective.  And, if he’s not comfortable with your opinions now, he won’t be in six months!

5.)    Accept compliments – One of the biggest mistakes women make is to turn aside compliments.  Men like to tell the women in their lives that they are attractive, sexy, or smart.  Almost by reflex, women deflect these complements.  If he says he likes your hair, don’t tell him about how awful it really looks.  Just say, thank you and smile.  When you can take a compliment in stride, you are a more attractive date.

6.)    Show the guy a good time – He’s only going to want to go out with you on a second date if he has fun on the first date.  If he laughs a lot during the date, he is going to want to come back for more.

7.)    Give yourself an escape route – Never go out on a date with a guy that you don’t know well if you don’t have an escape route.  It’s best to meet somewhere public on a first date rather than have him pick you up at your home.  If you do let him pick you up, make sure you have cab fare home.  Let your roommates or friends know who you are going out with.  Don’t find yourself in a dangerous situation just because you haven’t been cautious enough up front.

Those seven tips are may best dating advice for women.

If you’ve ever had this happen to you with a man, then you know how FRUSTRATING it can be when a man just suddenly stops calling for what seems like no good reason…you’ve spent more time than you’d like to admit wondering what happened and what YOU might have done wrong.

Most women in this situation fall into a kind of trap that seems to work against them. Instead of recognizing that the man not calling is an important signal in of itself, they become obsessed with wanting to know what he’s thinking and WHY he’s acting this way. But most women also know on an intuitive level that coming out and actually asking a man why he’s acting this way wouldn’t bring about anything good.

And guess what? Their intuition is right.

With most men in this situation, if you want to connect with a man and grow closer, then the answer is NOT to try and get him to talk about his thoughts and feelings.

It’s time you learned what it really means if a man isn’t calling… and what to do about it to quickly “turn the tables” in your favor so that he’s the one calling and asking you out.

WHY ISN’T HE CALLING MORE?

Here’s something you might not have thought about…

Men often communicate and show their feelings in less “direct” ways than simply saying and expressing how the feel. In fact, most men are a whole lot more conscious of DOING things than they are of how they affect and relate to others on an emotional level. So… when a man doesn’t call, it’s often NOT an indication of something else going on for him that he might want to talk to you about.

Often times it’s simply an indication that he doesn’t actually FEEL like spending more time around you. So he simply doesn’t call. In other words, when it comes to men and dating, it’s best to look at a man’s ACTIONS and BEHAVIORS as the only TRUE INDICATION of how they really feel inside.

As a woman, you can probably spin your wheels dreaming up all kinds of incredible and elaborate ideas and scenarios for why a man isn’t calling and what it means about his feelings and your situation. But, if you’re interested in doing more than analyzing and trying to figure out things in your own mind… then it’s best to “read” the men you’re dating early on by what they DO… and NOT what they SAY. Which means… a man not calling you often, or at all, is an important signal in and of itself.

If a man is spending time with a woman he “likes”, but he isn’t sure if he would want much more than a few casual dates with her…then here’s what he does…

He only calls her every once in a while to keep the “connection” open… making sure not to let the connection die, but also making sure not to spend too much time with a woman or show her too many signs of interest that
might indicate he’d want a more serious relationship. And yes, some men actually think this way and are CONSCIOUS about NOT CALLING women very often if they don’t want things to get more serious.

While other men who don’t call are usually doing this inadvertently as they’re going about their life and not thinking much about wanting more with a woman.

Here’s what you need to take away from all this…

If a man isn’t calling and you’d like him to call more and to grow in your relationship together, it really doesn’t matter WHY. The only things that matter are if he’s not calling because he’s not interested in a relationship with you ever.

Or…

If he’s not calling because he’s just not feeling “that way” for you YET. Which begs the question – how do you get a man feeling “that way” for you if he’s not feeling it yet? Well, for starters, you need to STOP doing the things that will promise that a man WON’T feel it for you..things like CALLING HIM TOO MUCH. Or getting upset and hurt that he hasn’t called when there’s no “relationship” yet, and it’s just YOUR EXPECTATION that he SHOULD call more.
Or generally taking on any other needy, clingy, or overly emotional behaviors that will have a man thinking you’d be nothing but a pain if he was to get to know you and involved in a real relationship with you.

What you need to do instead is to start to learn the behaviors that create the feeling of ATTRACTION inside a man.

Why attraction?

Because attraction is the one thing that will “override” all the logical reasons a man has for NOT wanting to get involved with a woman or stay single…and will take over his “emotional world” and have him thinking and acting from his EMOTIONS with you… instead of his “logical mind” that will often try to RESIST a woman and a real committed relationship.

The very best way there is to learn how attraction works for a man and quickly start using works with men to create a deep level of LASTING ATTRACTION inside the man you’re dating is to get a copy of  Catch Him and Keep Him. In this program Christian Carter shows you 6 Keys to Lasting Attraction with a man you need to know about if you want a man to see you as the only woman he wants to be with.

If you don’t know about these critical 6 Keys To Lasting Attraction, then you’re going to struggle with a man eventually.

It could be when he shows up in a few months or years and says, “I love you, but I’m not IN LOVE with you.”
Or when he loses his physical interest in you and you know your not “connecting” the way you used to… and you worry he might be thinking about or seeing another woman.

The truth is, if you learn how to keep that intense level of attraction ALIVE in your relationship… and you know how to make a man feel attracted to you on a physical, emotional, and “intellectual” level, then your relationship with him will largely take care of itself.

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Just as there are dating rules for guys, women have some general rules that they should follow when entering the dating game. These are just general rules I found, so don’t take things too seriously.
General rules exists because courtship is a ritual. We make things happen that excite, stimulate, create interest and confound. Dating is a long test of compatibility. Are we perfectly matched?

In every society there are a predefined set of social rules we follow. The bottom line is that when women date, there are some things that can help them be more successful. If we accept that dating is a game, then there are rules to that game. There are winners and losers. If you know the rules in advance, it gives you a head start. If men know the rules that you are playing by, you can change the rules to suit the situation to keep the man guessing.

General Dating Rules

* Always look great. Look your best as you could meet a potential Mr. Right.
* Never reveal information you don’t have to.
* Keep dates brief, but your men interested. Less is always more.
* Try and stay in shape and include some fitness regime at a gym. Men love your body as much as your mind.
* Let your man pay. If he is interested, he’ll want to ensure you eat well and get home safely.
* Ensure you receive flowers. If he doesn’t know what a florist is, dump him.
* Never, ever, sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything.
* Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady’s perogative.
* Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.
* If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday.
* Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends are sacred and not available for dates.
* Keep your man standing on quicksand by shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.
* Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss. Practice on a mirror if you have to.
* Never ever talk about previous boyfriends. Your ex-boyfriends are your business only.
* Never assume anything about your date until you know him better. You cannot always tell by looking.
* If any man shows the slightest signs of possessiveness or insecurity, dump him. Life is too short for boys.
* If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, dump him.
* Never talk too much about your father and how your date measures up in comparison.
* Never ever come across as too available or too desperate. This will chase him away.
* If the guy in the corner is gorgeous, go get him and create the need in him for you. Never wait for men to come to you because you may watch him leave with someone else.
* You may well have all the bodily functions of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on.
* If you want a child, don’t mention it on the first few dates.
* Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.

Maybe you feel like this – maybe you’ve thought it, or heard it somewhere. It’s a popular myth that’s floating around nowadays, but as I said, it’s a myth.

Yet still some people think that sex must be spontaneous and ‘random’ to be truly enjoyable. This is one of the most stupid things you can possibly think.

When you both work, have children, or are just busy people, it can be hard to find the time or energy for sex. When it comes down to it, it’s just not there. It’s an unfortunate fact of life.

You want it to be random and sexy, and in the end, you just don’t have any. Instead of falling into this trap, decide a time where you actually plan to have sex that night.

Write it down and send your partner a ‘love note’, mentioning – specifically – what you plan to do to them. Add detail and color to ensure that they, without a doubt, get the point.

Make sure you have a bit of time, and put candles around the room, or buy flowers if you’re a guy – set the mood so that it’s something new, different, and – dare I say it? – romantic.

This spices things up.

Another trick to spicing up your evening alone is wearing sexy lingerie – this only applies to the woman of course unless you want a really kinky night! But a simple, sexy teddy or a tiny mesh bikini bottom can turn a boring night into an unforgettable one. Or the guy can get some saucy underwear as well, he may feel silly in it but that is half the fun.

If you’re embarrassed to purchase these sort of items in a store, never fear! There are countless websites that ship in a non-descript box right to your door, so you never have to worry about what the neighbor will think of your hot new look.

Men, are you listening? Go to the store and fulfill your fantasy – purchase your lady the best, hottest lingerie you can find, and ask her to wear it for you one night!

New Locations

Did you ever consider having sex on the kitchen table? Maybe in the dining room – or on the living room couch, when nobody is around.

Don’t be afraid to try new locations to make your sex life more interesting, because moving around is important. If you stick in the bedroom, you’re not going to experience much variety!

Move out gradually – try showering together, and see what happens. Even if you end up in the bed eventually, doing something different like that can spice it up.

Then, perhaps try a spare bedroom, or the couch – something a little more familiar. You don’t have to jump into it all at once, and taking it slow will let you get a bit more accustomed to it.

A change of scenery is important. Even in sex!

Travel

One five star New York City hotel owner pointed out that almost 80% of his clientele actually lived in New York City, and were coming out to the hotel in order to get away from their life.

You don’t have to go far, but a hotel room may be just what the doctor ordered for your sex life. You see, it doesn’t matter whether you’re going to be in the city you live in, or a thousand miles away – what matters is that you’re away from your home and the bed that you’ve always been in.

Just grab a small bag of clothes, and each other. Sit in the bathtub together, give each other massages on the new, strange bed, and keep neighbors up all night with the… TV.

Sure.

The TV.

It doesn’t have to cost much, and it can make you feel amazing about yourself, and your sex life.

Feel Sexy

Being sexy isn’t as much looking sexy, as feeling sexy. And if you’re starting to feel bad about how you look, it could be seriously affecting not only your pleasure in bed, but the pleasure of your partner.

Instead of feeling crappy about yourself, and your sex life, take the time and feel good about yourself. There are a lot of different ways to do this, too, and not all of them will work on one person – so figure out what feels good for you.

The most obvious way is to start working out. Grab your partner if you don’t want to go alone, and head to a gym, or just do some walking or jogging outside.

It may take up to three months to see results, depending on your current level of fitness and the time you put into your workouts, but you feel good now, working out and taking care of your body.

You can’t beat it, huh?

Also, consider taking your partner to a spa for a day (Or heading out solo for some you time), getting a haircut, or purchasing a few new pieces of clothing.

Men – worried this sounds more feminine than masculine? Trust me – something new makes any gender feel good about themselves.

Try New Positions

Did you consider this before, but toss it out of the window because your partner wasn’t adventurous enough? Ot maybe you think you’ve tried every position?

Well, bring it back to the table – and re-think your previous notions, because trying new positions can be more exciting than you think. It creates more variety in your sex life, and doing it the same way time after time just isn’t as interesting as it could be.

Not sure where to find these new positions? Head to the book store (Or online) and look up Tantra – specifically, Tantric Sex, which is rooted in Indian beliefs.

You’ll find positions, and ways to have sex, that are varied and very interesting. Even if you’ve been in ‘every damn position I can think of’, you probably haven’t tried these, like the Missionary position, with the woman’s legs closed to embrace the man fully.

Interested?

You can find a lot of information in it, and no matter how experienced you are, something new.

Movies

Maybe you like to watch porn – maybe it’s just not something you want to share with your partner. Perhaps it’s something you never think of, or maybe it’s something that your partner knows about, but doesn’t get involved in.

If you’re feeling like you’re in a sexual rut of sorts, try renting a sexy video, or downloading one and burning it to a DVD. Clear out the house and pop it into the DVD player in the living room.

Watch it with your partner, and don’t feel guilty or afraid of being turned on by it – that’s the point! After the movie, try some of the things you’ve just seen, or simply enjoy your partner, and the love that you share.

Watching sexy movies isn’t bad, and it’s not a sin. You won’t go to hell – you’ll just have better sexual relations.

Relax Beforehand

Feeling too stressed to want to have sex, and it’s ruining your intimacy? It’s ironic, because having an orgasm releases chemicals that reduces your stress level. I know – it’s funny, right? Well, not if you’re not having sex, it isn’t.

Before you’re ready to have sex, take some time for yourself. Spend 10 minutes completely quiet, meditating or just enjoying the silence. Yoga is a great way to calm yourself – exercise can help get that blood flowing everywhere, including the places it needs to go.

Take some time for yourself, and reduce your stress level before hitting the sheets. It can help!

Flirt

Being a little flirtatious during the day with your partner can make them feel much, much more ready for bed – and it can help you feel good about yourself, too.

Make sexual innuendo’s and jokes, offer flowers or a gift to your partner as an appreciative gesture (not an ‘I’m sorry’ gesture), and take them out to a romantic and fun ‘date night’.

Flirting and courting is something that should be continued in a longterm relationship, and even throughout marriage – because it’s exciting, and makes both of you feel good about what you’re doing.

Remember the old saying – what you did to get’em, you do to keep’em!

Atmosphere

Before venturing outside of the room, why don’t you try something new – like setting a romantic, sensual atmosphere in your own room, instead of outside.

When it comes to men and women, the atmosphere can make or break a hot night – especially with women. What can you do in order to spice up the room, and the feelings?

Scented candles work well, and putting a few around the bedroom before the magic happens, along with dimming the lights, can make a big difference.

Sensual-scented incense can heighten both of your pleasure, as well as make your room smell good afterwards, instead of sweaty.

If you’re not a big ’scent’ person, try some new decorations – buy luxury, soft sheets for the special occasion, and use lights that are dimmer than usual to create a romantic and exciting atmosphere.

The atmosphere is everything – especially with women – so get it right!

Toys

Have you considered trying sex toys? If you haven’t, you should – because it can make a boring, routine night a much more exciting one, without hassle or stress, and without too much ‘out of the box’ thinking.

You can purchase different toys online, or in sex stores, depending on what you want to try. Don’t expect to do something crazy, and make sure both of you are comfortable with it. There are many different sorts of toys out there, so don’t be afraid to look at more than one before you make your purchase.

Toys are something fun, different, and exciting that will make your night worthwhile. Don’t worry – they do not detract from the bedroom, or each other. They enhance it!

Remember…

Rome wasn’t built in a night – give yourself, and each other, time to enjoy and appreciate the sex that you’re having. Try new things, shake it up, and try, as hard as you can, not to fall into a rut that will leave you unhappy.

Before turning to an alternative like having an affair, or worse, a divorce, talk with your partner about your sexual relationship. Don’t be afraid or embarrassed to admit that you might not be entirely happy with it… the most likely thing is that they won’t be happy either.

Sex should be fairly often – at least once a week – and you should feel excited about the prospect, not annoyed.

It won’t happen overnight, but taking some time and figuring out what you want can save your relationship, and make you feel young again!

But for many, laughter doesn’t come easy. Making your special guy or gal laugh can be difficult, and if you’re nervous, or awkward, around them, it’s going to be even worse. What can you do?

Well… it’s not easy. And it’s something that you need to practice at. But making your partner laugh can not only be the most satisfying part of the day, but you’ll make’em feel like a million bucks.

So, where do you start, and how can you put a smile on their face for sure?

Something to Keep in Mind Before Continuing…

This is something that no book, report, article, or movie will tell you.

Everyone is different. They laugh differently, they love differently, and they endure hardship differently. And because of that, each person will laugh at something different.

There is no one way to make someone laugh – and there is no one way to make someone not laugh. Knowing your partner, and knowing what they like, really is the key to making them laugh.

That being said, this article is here for informational purpose only. These are ways that I, and other men and women, have found to make their partners laugh, from what not to do, the foundation of the laugh, and more.

I’m not saying that you’re going to become the next Dane Cook with this article – but you should have a better idea how to please your lover in the funny department.

What Not to Do to Make them Laugh…

I thought that we would start this off right – by putting things to avoid in here, before anything else. You can be the funniest person in the world, after all, but if you don’t know when to stop, you’re going to get annoying.

Pranks are Not Cute

Yeah, yeah, we’ve seen the old throw-ice-down-their-pants-when-they’re-sleeping prank a hundred and two times… but has your partner ever, once, thought it was at least a little funny?

The answer to that question is a resounding ‘no’. Remember that pranks are only funny on television, and that your partner is not going to appreciate you cementing their car, throwing ice on them, or jumping into bed at two in the morning drunk. No matter how funny you find it to be.

What Works on Your Friends…

What’s funny with your friends often isn’t funny with your partner, no matter how ‘with it’ they are. Many times, your partner won’t want to be considered ‘with it’ – they want to be your ‘it’. Most people have more friends of their own gender than the opposite, so your humor will be both from them and aimed to make them laugh.

Take the time to learn what your partner thinks is funny, you will quickly pick up cues as to what they find funny when you start trying, and then you can improve on what works and cut out what doesn’t!

Don’t Be Funny by Being a Jerk/Jerkess…

It’s not cute to flirt with the waitress or waiter when your partner just made a joke about you going home with him or her. They made that joke not to be funny, but to cover up their insecurities – so flirting with that person is going to make it worse.

Being cruel and saying things that are meant to undermine your partner while you pretend to be joking are a surefire way to being single not to get a laugh!

Forget

The quickest and surest way to ruin her birthday is to forget about it. Don’t buy a gift and don’t mention it, and you’re well on your way to the fight of your life. It’s in your better interest to mark her birthday on a calendar, one you look at often, in order to prevent this sort of disaster from happening.

Buy a Dumb Gift

You’ve probably heard horror stories of the guy who bought his wife a vacuum cleaner for their anniversary. If you want to ruin her birthday, try buying her a power tool you’ve been coveting for six months or tickets to the big game. She’ll assume (rightly) that you are a selfish boor, and only think of yourself. Next stop: the couch. Do not pass Go, do not collect…well…anything.

Invite Someone to Her Party She Doesn’t Like

If you want to ruin her birthday, invite someone to her party that she’s uncomfortable around. For instance, if you really want to ruin her birthday, invite one of your ex girlfriends to the party or someone she’s feuding with.

Remember, just because you like the person, doesn’t mean she does. And it is her birthday, so why not try to invite people she likes?

Treat Her to a McDonalds

If your motto is, “Go cheap or go home,” there is a very good chance you’re going to ruin your woman’s birthday in the near future. Do not, under any circumstances, take her to McDonalds or Burger King for her birthday. She wants to feel special and loved, and these particular eating establishments do not ooze that atmosphere. Sure, a Big Mac might taste great going down, and your wallet will appreciate you, but your woman will not. Take her out somewhere nice. Show her how special she is and you won’t regret it.

A woman’s birthday is important to them. They expect you to remember, and the very act of forgetting is seen as a sign that they’re not important enough to you, to remember. Don’t make the mistakes found in this article. Some of them are tempting, but deep down you really don’t want to ruin her birthday, do you?

Dating is like a game, the more you do it, the better you get. Some people have natural talent when it comes to dating, and some people have to try, try and try again. But like a game, you have a much better chance of winning if you keep in mind the rules of play.

Look Your Best

Looks aren’t everything, but good hygiene, neat appearance and a pleasant body odor can come in handy when playing the dating game. Take some time to put yourself together. Your date will appreciate the effort, and it shows that you care about your appearance.

Confidence is a Man’s or Woman’s Best Friend

To win the dating game every time, confidence is required. Confidence is sexy. Both men and women are attracted to it, so it’s important that you gain some. This doesn’t mean you should be cocky, egotistical or a jerk. It just means you should seem like you’re confident being you, and all that entails.

Stimulating Conversation

You’ll gain some extra points in the dating game if you can make your date laugh, talk and enjoy themselves through conversation. If you can keep your date interested, the second date is just around the corner. Pull out some of your amusing or funny stories, and ask your date some questions, without getting too personal. Don’t talk about yourself too much either. Instead, just try to go with the flow, and keep the conversation as natural and free flowing as possible, without any awkward silences.

Smile

Smiling alone can help you win a second date. Smiling is attractive, and puts people at ease. Try to smile as often as possible, without seeming like a grinning lunatic.

Manners

Use your manners and be polite. Nothing is as big a turn off as someone who is rude and obnoxious. If you want to woo your date then it’s in your best interests to be as polite as possible, whenever possible.

By playing by the rules, you too can win the dating game every time and earn yourself a second, third or fourth date.

It just seems that way because so many young people today don’t know the basics of etiquette and manners, it is not taught anywhere so unless someone you know teaches you then sadly this is fading out.

That is no reason for you to allow the good old days to fade.

The thing is that women are a lot more conscious of manners and courtesy. We have different upbringings and although we may not use typical manners when with our male friends,  it is not acceptable to use the same kind of manners when in the company of a lady.

This puts you in a great position because as women reluctantly accept the fact that most men’s manners are going out the window. They are genuinely shocked and impressed by a man that can show proper etiquette!

1. Standing Up

This may seem a little stuffy for some, but it is traditional etiquette that you stand whenever a lady enters or departs from a room (it is also etiquette to do it when an elder or someone very important enters or departs the room).

So don’t sit there on the sofa while she leaves, get up, at least say goodbye to her face to face, and don’t let her make her own way out. Walk her to the door and see her off properly!

All of this shows you care about her and you are paying attention to her, grunting goodbye at her from the sofa while you are still watching TV does not show respect or attention!

2. Door Etiquette

Everybody knows the rule of holding a door for a lady. Rut to do it right you need to hold it open for them and step out of the way so that they can pass. Nod and say, ‘after you’ if she hesitates. A smile always helps as well as she may be a bit stunned!

How about revolving doors then? Well these are a bit trickier. The guy goes in first (try an, “allow me” before you do so she doesn’t think you are just pushing in front) to push the door round for the lady who follows in behind you. And no spinning it round fast and having it smack into the back of them like you do with your friends!

These two are sure to get you a smile from a discerning lady.

3. Etiquette for Walking Into a Room

This one should be easy if you think about it…

… she walks in first because you are holding the door for her!

The same goes for concerts, movies, etc,  hold the door so she can enter and then the lady goes first into the row of seats.

On exit from the row,  you will be leading, so stand at the end to stop anyone from cutting off your partner as they exit the rows in front, and allow her to exit in front of you then walk beside her.

4. Table Manners

This is a sorely neglected area of people’s manners, but here a few tips to have you polished in no time!

• Always serve everything for the lady you came with, but never for a lady who came with another man (do it if they are by themselves though).
• Never talk with your mouthful or make noise as you eat.
• Never leave the table before the family or guests without asking to be excused by the host or hostess
• Always drink your soup from using the side of the spoon without any noise!
• Do not talk loud or boisterously
• When serving them never overload their plate or force them to have something which they have already declined once

5. Be Punctual

Always always always be on time for a date!

It shows respect, good planning and personal timekeeping and reliability.

Make sure you leave in plenty of time, and if necessary,  get there early and wait for a while, much better than run the risk of being late.

If you are running late, then telephone the lady. If she doesn’t answer her phone, call the restaurant to make sure she is aware of what is going on and not left to become unnecessarily anxious.

If you are having to rush to meet her  after you have phoned,  make sure you take a minute or two to ‘catch your breath’, compose yourself and straighten yourself out before you go the final stretch and meet her.

6. Conversation

Remember that a conversation is two sided. This means if you catch yourself talking for too long then apologise and turn the conversation to them.

For most people,  a great topic is themselves. They know a lot about that subject so they feel comfortable talking about it! Women love it when you show an interest in them and their lives, so try to get her to talk about herself more and she will really feel a connection with you.

Be enthusiastic and positive, no matter what they are saying, even if it is boring or not! This will put them at ease and more relaxed so a conversation will start to flow.

Try to avoid topics that evoke emotion like religion, politics and money. These may get you caught up in debate that is more suited to the comfort of your own home rather than on your date.

Laugh at funny jokes, but a smile will suffice for unfunny ones; you don’t have to laugh at everything or she will think you are trying too hard and being insincere!

7. Getting Comfortable

It is your place, as the man, to make sure that your date is comfortable at all times. Do not  keep asking her if she is comfortable, but to notice if she is looking cold or shifting in an uncomfortable seat and take appropriate action to remedy the situation.

If you are walking along and you see a puddle then you may be comfortable going through it but don’t drag her through it. You don’t have to throw your coat over it like in old times, but just make sure you both avoid it somehow.

Offer your coat if she is cold when you are out and about. Women tend to dress lightly since they hate to have too much stuff to carry around, so you should be prepared to sacrifice your coat or jacket to keep them warm (or getting them out of the cold is another solution!)

8. Eye Contact

Most people make eye contact when they are listening, but not when they are talking. Try to make as much eye contact as possible to let them know they have your undivided attention.

Make sure that you genuinely are paying attention to them so that they feel they are the only person in the whole place. If you look around the room or look at other people then the person talking will assume that you are bored and looking to get away.

A good rule with eye contact is to look at the spot just in-between people’s eyes. Don’t stare for extended periods of time, take a quick break by briefly looking at something else and then come back, otherwise the talker could become uncomfortable.

9. Be Yourself

People can usually tell when you are exaggerating, if not immediately. It will show through later and bite you in the butt.

It has also been said that women are 10x more sensitive to body language than men, so if you are lying or exaggerating, there is a good chance they will know it!

If you try and be someone  you are not, you’ll only trap yourself into lying in the future to keep up the pretence, or  having to be called out which will make you look worse than if you just tried to be yourself.

People can tell when you are trying too hard and that is not a good trait as it shows you are not comfortable with the real you.

10. Extra Tips

Lastly, some other things you need to remember for your date:

• ALWAYS make sure she gets home ok. If you can, escort her home, then go home. Cabs are not always as safe as they seem
• Never try and have sex on a first date. Men try it routinely, but if a woman responds then one of you is bound to cheat later on in the relationship with that attitude to sex!
• Never swear or use uncouth language in front of a lady. Yes they already know the words, but that does not make it acceptable to use them
• Always make an effort to be dressed smartly, be fresh and smell good
• Never argue or be rude to others on a date, just let things slide or you will look like a jerk
• Compliment your date, but only if you mean it!
• On the first date always pick up the tab, on later dates always do it unless she offers first
• Never date unless you are genuinely, genuinely single! None of this, ‘Well I am kind of seeing someone’. That is not acceptable behaviour.

One very real barrier to a lot of people when it comes to their social lives is their wallet. A flash date can cost hundreds of dollars, and many people just don’t have that kind of money to play around with. But the good news is you can have a great date without all that expense.

The next time you want to take a man or woman out on a date, try doing something less costly, more creative and in a lot of ways, more fun. For instance, you could go for a walk along the water, play catch or Frisbee in a park, have a picnic or take a bike tour of your city or nearby trails.

And that’s just the tip of the iceberg. There are no shortages of great date ideas that don’t come with a huge price tag attached. How about playing a board game or charades, while sipping wine and eating cheese? Or you could find your nearest ice-cream parlor and share a cone. Take a day trip and sleep in your car, go to the beach, check out a movie at the nearest drive-in, go for a hike or head down the river in a rented canoe.

Figuring out date ideas without the expense just takes a little bit more imagination on your part. Yet many people don’t even think about it, but instead drain their bank accounts, all in the name of love. They never consider the fact that a less expensive, but more imaginative date could be far more effective.

Think about it for a second. If you were asked out on a date, wouldn’t you appreciate it if someone did something out of the ordinary to impress you? It wouldn’t seem cheap, just more fun. Plus, most of the date ideas mentioned above have the added bonus of conversation time. The main idea of dating is to get to know someone a little better, and by doing something where conversation is likely, you’re way ahead of the game.

Don’t let money stop you from dating! Use some of the great date ideas mentioned in this article or think outside the box, and come up with your own. Money doesn’t have to be an issue. There are plenty of great date ideas without the expense, just waiting for you to try them out.