Dating Advice for Women

Many women are nervous during the initial phases of a relationship and they mess up their chances with a guy right off the bat.  I hate to see this happen, so I’ve compiled some dating advice for women.

1.)    Be yourself – You won’t be able to keep up a façade forever.  So, don’t start a relationship by playing a role.  You will want to play to your strengths and present your best face to your date.  But don’t try to fool him into thinking you are someone you are not.  First of all, you can’t keep it up for the long haul.  But, more importantly, you don’t want him falling in love with an image.  If you are an outspoken person, it’s best to not temper your views just to make a good impression.  That is not the person you are, so don’t make him think it is.

2.)    Be confident – You are a worthy person and you have a lot to offer.  Many women have low self esteem and they lack the confidence needed to be successful on a date.   But, guys like confident women.  They need to know that they will have a partner.  They don’t want to carry all of the weight in the relationship.  If you are confident, you will have a much higher chance of getting a second date.

3.)    Be positive – No guy wants to hear about how awful your day was, how your mom annoys you, or how your boss doesn’t appreciate your work.  He wants to hear that you have a happy outlook on life.  Face it: who would you rather spend time with, a person who is depressed and down in the dumps all of the time or someone who is optimistic about the future?  That’s his answer too!

4.)    Express your opinions – Too many women are afraid to express their opinions about things for fear of turning a guy off.  But men don’t want doormats.  They want to be with interesting women.  And interesting women have opinions.  While some cavemen may think that a woman must mirror his opinions, a real man is comfortable enough with his own views to appreciate hearing a different perspective.  And, if he’s not comfortable with your opinions now, he won’t be in six months!

5.)    Accept compliments – One of the biggest mistakes women make is to turn aside compliments.  Men like to tell the women in their lives that they are attractive, sexy, or smart.  Almost by reflex, women deflect these complements.  If he says he likes your hair, don’t tell him about how awful it really looks.  Just say, thank you and smile.  When you can take a compliment in stride, you are a more attractive date.

6.)    Show the guy a good time – He’s only going to want to go out with you on a second date if he has fun on the first date.  If he laughs a lot during the date, he is going to want to come back for more.

7.)    Give yourself an escape route – Never go out on a date with a guy that you don’t know well if you don’t have an escape route.  It’s best to meet somewhere public on a first date rather than have him pick you up at your home.  If you do let him pick you up, make sure you have cab fare home.  Let your roommates or friends know who you are going out with.  Don’t find yourself in a dangerous situation just because you haven’t been cautious enough up front.

Those seven tips are may best dating advice for women.

What If He Doesn’t Call Often

Ever wonder why the man you’re dating and having an amazing time with doesn’t call you very often? Or worse… stops calling altogether?

If you’ve ever had this happen to you with a man, then you know how FRUSTRATING it can be when a man just suddenly stops calling for what seems like no good reason…you’ve spent more time than you’d like to admit wondering what happened and what YOU might have done wrong.

Most women in this situation fall into a kind of trap that seems to work against them. Instead of recognizing that the man not calling is an important signal in of itself, they become obsessed with wanting to know what he’s thinking and WHY he’s acting this way. But most women also know on an intuitive level that coming out and actually asking a man why he’s acting this way wouldn’t bring about anything good.

And guess what? Their intuition is right.

With most men in this situation, if you want to connect with a man and grow closer, then the answer is NOT to try and get him to talk about his thoughts and feelings.

It’s time you learned what it really means if a man isn’t calling… and what to do about it to quickly “turn the tables” in your favor so that he’s the one calling and asking you out.

WHY ISN’T HE CALLING MORE?

Here’s something you might not have thought about…

Men often communicate and show their feelings in less “direct” ways than simply saying and expressing how the feel. In fact, most men are a whole lot more conscious of DOING things than they are of how they affect and relate to others on an emotional level. So… when a man doesn’t call, it’s often NOT an indication of something else going on for him that he might want to talk to you about.

Often times it’s simply an indication that he doesn’t actually FEEL like spending more time around you. So he simply doesn’t call. In other words, when it comes to men and dating, it’s best to look at a man’s ACTIONS and BEHAVIORS as the only TRUE INDICATION of how they really feel inside.

As a woman, you can probably spin your wheels dreaming up all kinds of incredible and elaborate ideas and scenarios for why a man isn’t calling and what it means about his feelings and your situation. But, if you’re interested in doing more than analyzing and trying to figure out things in your own mind… then it’s best to “read” the men you’re dating early on by what they DO… and NOT what they SAY. Which means… a man not calling you often, or at all, is an important signal in and of itself.

If a man is spending time with a woman he “likes”, but he isn’t sure if he would want much more than a few casual dates with her…then here’s what he does…

He only calls her every once in a while to keep the “connection” open… making sure not to let the connection die, but also making sure not to spend too much time with a woman or show her too many signs of interest that
might indicate he’d want a more serious relationship. And yes, some men actually think this way and are CONSCIOUS about NOT CALLING women very often if they don’t want things to get more serious.

While other men who don’t call are usually doing this inadvertently as they’re going about their life and not thinking much about wanting more with a woman.

Here’s what you need to take away from all this…

If a man isn’t calling and you’d like him to call more and to grow in your relationship together, it really doesn’t matter WHY. The only things that matter are if he’s not calling because he’s not interested in a relationship with you ever.

Or…

If he’s not calling because he’s just not feeling “that way” for you YET. Which begs the question – how do you get a man feeling “that way” for you if he’s not feeling it yet? Well, for starters, you need to STOP doing the things that will promise that a man WON’T feel it for you..things like CALLING HIM TOO MUCH. Or getting upset and hurt that he hasn’t called when there’s no “relationship” yet, and it’s just YOUR EXPECTATION that he SHOULD call more.
Or generally taking on any other needy, clingy, or overly emotional behaviors that will have a man thinking you’d be nothing but a pain if he was to get to know you and involved in a real relationship with you.

What you need to do instead is to start to learn the behaviors that create the feeling of ATTRACTION inside a man.

Why attraction?

Because attraction is the one thing that will “override” all the logical reasons a man has for NOT wanting to get involved with a woman or stay single…and will take over his “emotional world” and have him thinking and acting from his EMOTIONS with you… instead of his “logical mind” that will often try to RESIST a woman and a real committed relationship.

The very best way there is to learn how attraction works for a man and quickly start using works with men to create a deep level of LASTING ATTRACTION inside the man you’re dating is to get a copy of  Catch Him and Keep Him. In this program Christian Carter shows you 6 Keys to Lasting Attraction with a man you need to know about if you want a man to see you as the only woman he wants to be with.

If you don’t know about these critical 6 Keys To Lasting Attraction, then you’re going to struggle with a man eventually.

It could be when he shows up in a few months or years and says, “I love you, but I’m not IN LOVE with you.”
Or when he loses his physical interest in you and you know your not “connecting” the way you used to… and you worry he might be thinking about or seeing another woman.

The truth is, if you learn how to keep that intense level of attraction ALIVE in your relationship… and you know how to make a man feel attracted to you on a physical, emotional, and “intellectual” level, then your relationship with him will largely take care of itself.

Dating Rules for Women

The Do’s and Don’ts of dating

Just as there are dating rules for guys, women have some general rules that they should follow when entering the dating game. These are just general rules I found, so don’t take things too seriously.
General rules exists because courtship is a ritual. We make things happen that excite, stimulate, create interest and confound. Dating is a long test of compatibility. Are we perfectly matched?

In every society there are a predefined set of social rules we follow. The bottom line is that when women date, there are some things that can help them be more successful. If we accept that dating is a game, then there are rules to that game. There are winners and losers. If you know the rules in advance, it gives you a head start. If men know the rules that you are playing by, you can change the rules to suit the situation to keep the man guessing.

General Dating Rules

* Always look great. Look your best as you could meet a potential Mr. Right.
* Never reveal information you don’t have to.
* Keep dates brief, but your men interested. Less is always more.
* Try and stay in shape and include some fitness regime at a gym. Men love your body as much as your mind.
* Let your man pay. If he is interested, he’ll want to ensure you eat well and get home safely.
* Ensure you receive flowers. If he doesn’t know what a florist is, dump him.
* Never, ever, sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything.
* Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady’s perogative.
* Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.
* If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday.
* Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends are sacred and not available for dates.
* Keep your man standing on quicksand by shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.
* Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss. Practice on a mirror if you have to.
* Never ever talk about previous boyfriends. Your ex-boyfriends are your business only.
* Never assume anything about your date until you know him better. You cannot always tell by looking.
* If any man shows the slightest signs of possessiveness or insecurity, dump him. Life is too short for boys.
* If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, dump him.
* Never talk too much about your father and how your date measures up in comparison.
* Never ever come across as too available or too desperate. This will chase him away.
* If the guy in the corner is gorgeous, go get him and create the need in him for you. Never wait for men to come to you because you may watch him leave with someone else.
* You may well have all the bodily functions of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on.
* If you want a child, don’t mention it on the first few dates.
* Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.

Tips To Revive A Stale Sex Life

Myth: Sex Must Be Spontaneous to be Sexy & Enjoyable

Maybe you feel like this – maybe you’ve thought it, or heard it somewhere. It’s a popular myth that’s floating around nowadays, but as I said, it’s a myth.

Yet still some people think that sex must be spontaneous and ‘random’ to be truly enjoyable. This is one of the most stupid things you can possibly think.

When you both work, have children, or are just busy people, it can be hard to find the time or energy for sex. When it comes down to it, it’s just not there. It’s an unfortunate fact of life.

You want it to be random and sexy, and in the end, you just don’t have any. Instead of falling into this trap, decide a time where you actually plan to have sex that night.

Write it down and send your partner a ‘love note’, mentioning – specifically – what you plan to do to them. Add detail and color to ensure that they, without a doubt, get the point.

Make sure you have a bit of time, and put candles around the room, or buy flowers if you’re a guy – set the mood so that it’s something new, different, and – dare I say it? – romantic.

This spices things up.

Another trick to spicing up your evening alone is wearing sexy lingerie – this only applies to the woman of course unless you want a really kinky night! But a simple, sexy teddy or a tiny mesh bikini bottom can turn a boring night into an unforgettable one. Or the guy can get some saucy underwear as well, he may feel silly in it but that is half the fun.

If you’re embarrassed to purchase these sort of items in a store, never fear! There are countless websites that ship in a non-descript box right to your door, so you never have to worry about what the neighbor will think of your hot new look.

Men, are you listening? Go to the store and fulfill your fantasy – purchase your lady the best, hottest lingerie you can find, and ask her to wear it for you one night!

New Locations

Did you ever consider having sex on the kitchen table? Maybe in the dining room – or on the living room couch, when nobody is around.

Don’t be afraid to try new locations to make your sex life more interesting, because moving around is important. If you stick in the bedroom, you’re not going to experience much variety!

Move out gradually – try showering together, and see what happens. Even if you end up in the bed eventually, doing something different like that can spice it up.

Then, perhaps try a spare bedroom, or the couch – something a little more familiar. You don’t have to jump into it all at once, and taking it slow will let you get a bit more accustomed to it.

A change of scenery is important. Even in sex!

Travel

One five star New York City hotel owner pointed out that almost 80% of his clientele actually lived in New York City, and were coming out to the hotel in order to get away from their life.

You don’t have to go far, but a hotel room may be just what the doctor ordered for your sex life. You see, it doesn’t matter whether you’re going to be in the city you live in, or a thousand miles away – what matters is that you’re away from your home and the bed that you’ve always been in.

Just grab a small bag of clothes, and each other. Sit in the bathtub together, give each other massages on the new, strange bed, and keep neighbors up all night with the… TV.

Sure.

The TV.

It doesn’t have to cost much, and it can make you feel amazing about yourself, and your sex life.

Feel Sexy

Being sexy isn’t as much looking sexy, as feeling sexy. And if you’re starting to feel bad about how you look, it could be seriously affecting not only your pleasure in bed, but the pleasure of your partner.

Instead of feeling crappy about yourself, and your sex life, take the time and feel good about yourself. There are a lot of different ways to do this, too, and not all of them will work on one person – so figure out what feels good for you.

The most obvious way is to start working out. Grab your partner if you don’t want to go alone, and head to a gym, or just do some walking or jogging outside.

It may take up to three months to see results, depending on your current level of fitness and the time you put into your workouts, but you feel good now, working out and taking care of your body.

You can’t beat it, huh?

Also, consider taking your partner to a spa for a day (Or heading out solo for some you time), getting a haircut, or purchasing a few new pieces of clothing.

Men – worried this sounds more feminine than masculine? Trust me – something new makes any gender feel good about themselves.

Try New Positions

Did you consider this before, but toss it out of the window because your partner wasn’t adventurous enough? Ot maybe you think you’ve tried every position?

Well, bring it back to the table – and re-think your previous notions, because trying new positions can be more exciting than you think. It creates more variety in your sex life, and doing it the same way time after time just isn’t as interesting as it could be.

Not sure where to find these new positions? Head to the book store (Or online) and look up Tantra – specifically, Tantric Sex, which is rooted in Indian beliefs.

You’ll find positions, and ways to have sex, that are varied and very interesting. Even if you’ve been in ‘every damn position I can think of’, you probably haven’t tried these, like the Missionary position, with the woman’s legs closed to embrace the man fully.

Interested?

You can find a lot of information in it, and no matter how experienced you are, something new.

Movies

Maybe you like to watch porn – maybe it’s just not something you want to share with your partner. Perhaps it’s something you never think of, or maybe it’s something that your partner knows about, but doesn’t get involved in.

If you’re feeling like you’re in a sexual rut of sorts, try renting a sexy video, or downloading one and burning it to a DVD. Clear out the house and pop it into the DVD player in the living room.

Watch it with your partner, and don’t feel guilty or afraid of being turned on by it – that’s the point! After the movie, try some of the things you’ve just seen, or simply enjoy your partner, and the love that you share.

Watching sexy movies isn’t bad, and it’s not a sin. You won’t go to hell – you’ll just have better sexual relations.

Relax Beforehand

Feeling too stressed to want to have sex, and it’s ruining your intimacy? It’s ironic, because having an orgasm releases chemicals that reduces your stress level. I know – it’s funny, right? Well, not if you’re not having sex, it isn’t.

Before you’re ready to have sex, take some time for yourself. Spend 10 minutes completely quiet, meditating or just enjoying the silence. Yoga is a great way to calm yourself – exercise can help get that blood flowing everywhere, including the places it needs to go.

Take some time for yourself, and reduce your stress level before hitting the sheets. It can help!

Flirt

Being a little flirtatious during the day with your partner can make them feel much, much more ready for bed – and it can help you feel good about yourself, too.

Make sexual innuendo’s and jokes, offer flowers or a gift to your partner as an appreciative gesture (not an ‘I’m sorry’ gesture), and take them out to a romantic and fun ‘date night’.

Flirting and courting is something that should be continued in a longterm relationship, and even throughout marriage – because it’s exciting, and makes both of you feel good about what you’re doing.

Remember the old saying – what you did to get’em, you do to keep’em!

Atmosphere

Before venturing outside of the room, why don’t you try something new – like setting a romantic, sensual atmosphere in your own room, instead of outside.

When it comes to men and women, the atmosphere can make or break a hot night – especially with women. What can you do in order to spice up the room, and the feelings?

Scented candles work well, and putting a few around the bedroom before the magic happens, along with dimming the lights, can make a big difference.

Sensual-scented incense can heighten both of your pleasure, as well as make your room smell good afterwards, instead of sweaty.

If you’re not a big ’scent’ person, try some new decorations – buy luxury, soft sheets for the special occasion, and use lights that are dimmer than usual to create a romantic and exciting atmosphere.

The atmosphere is everything – especially with women – so get it right!

Toys

Have you considered trying sex toys? If you haven’t, you should – because it can make a boring, routine night a much more exciting one, without hassle or stress, and without too much ‘out of the box’ thinking.

You can purchase different toys online, or in sex stores, depending on what you want to try. Don’t expect to do something crazy, and make sure both of you are comfortable with it. There are many different sorts of toys out there, so don’t be afraid to look at more than one before you make your purchase.

Toys are something fun, different, and exciting that will make your night worthwhile. Don’t worry – they do not detract from the bedroom, or each other. They enhance it!

Remember…

Rome wasn’t built in a night – give yourself, and each other, time to enjoy and appreciate the sex that you’re having. Try new things, shake it up, and try, as hard as you can, not to fall into a rut that will leave you unhappy.

Before turning to an alternative like having an affair, or worse, a divorce, talk with your partner about your sexual relationship. Don’t be afraid or embarrassed to admit that you might not be entirely happy with it… the most likely thing is that they won’t be happy either.

Sex should be fairly often – at least once a week – and you should feel excited about the prospect, not annoyed.

It won’t happen overnight, but taking some time and figuring out what you want can save your relationship, and make you feel young again!

How To Make Your Partner Laugh

Laughter is the best medicine, they always say – and for many, it’s the center of their being. Making a person laugh not only feels great, but it’s important… if you can make your partner laugh, you can win their heart.

But for many, laughter doesn’t come easy. Making your special guy or gal laugh can be difficult, and if you’re nervous, or awkward, around them, it’s going to be even worse. What can you do?

Well… it’s not easy. And it’s something that you need to practice at. But making your partner laugh can not only be the most satisfying part of the day, but you’ll make’em feel like a million bucks.

So, where do you start, and how can you put a smile on their face for sure?

Something to Keep in Mind Before Continuing…

This is something that no book, report, article, or movie will tell you.

Everyone is different. They laugh differently, they love differently, and they endure hardship differently. And because of that, each person will laugh at something different.

There is no one way to make someone laugh – and there is no one way to make someone not laugh. Knowing your partner, and knowing what they like, really is the key to making them laugh.

That being said, this article is here for informational purpose only. These are ways that I, and other men and women, have found to make their partners laugh, from what not to do, the foundation of the laugh, and more.

I’m not saying that you’re going to become the next Dane Cook with this article – but you should have a better idea how to please your lover in the funny department.

What Not to Do to Make them Laugh…

I thought that we would start this off right – by putting things to avoid in here, before anything else. You can be the funniest person in the world, after all, but if you don’t know when to stop, you’re going to get annoying.

Pranks are Not Cute

Yeah, yeah, we’ve seen the old throw-ice-down-their-pants-when-they’re-sleeping prank a hundred and two times… but has your partner ever, once, thought it was at least a little funny?

The answer to that question is a resounding ‘no’. Remember that pranks are only funny on television, and that your partner is not going to appreciate you cementing their car, throwing ice on them, or jumping into bed at two in the morning drunk. No matter how funny you find it to be.

What Works on Your Friends…

What’s funny with your friends often isn’t funny with your partner, no matter how ‘with it’ they are. Many times, your partner won’t want to be considered ‘with it’ – they want to be your ‘it’. Most people have more friends of their own gender than the opposite, so your humor will be both from them and aimed to make them laugh.

Take the time to learn what your partner thinks is funny, you will quickly pick up cues as to what they find funny when you start trying, and then you can improve on what works and cut out what doesn’t!

Don’t Be Funny by Being a Jerk/Jerkess…

It’s not cute to flirt with the waitress or waiter when your partner just made a joke about you going home with him or her. They made that joke not to be funny, but to cover up their insecurities – so flirting with that person is going to make it worse.

Being cruel and saying things that are meant to undermine your partner while you pretend to be joking are a surefire way to being single not to get a laugh!

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