Things Women Do That Make Men Leave

What’s happening when a man you thought you had a great connection with suddenly starts to withdraw and tells you he isn’t ready for a serious, committed relationship? All too often, women do or say things that are approval seeking.  This behavior is seen by men as unattractive, needy or someone who won’t make  a great partner.

Behaviors such as the following are sure relationship killers:

1. Pretending you don’t want anything serious either
2. Trying to become his best friend
3. Trying to make him jealous by going out with other guys
4. Calling him names and trying to get him into a relationship with you
5. Start doing things he likes to do, complimenting him, or just trying to win over his affection

Instead of doing the kinds of things mentioned above, you need to ditch these types of behaviors and start to understand how a man’s mind really works.

Biological or instinctual traits have been instilled in men over thousands and millions of years of “conditioning” during mating and courtship rituals with women. When a man is looking for a woman, a part of his instinctual “wiring” unconsciously tells him to look for a woman who is healthy and “fit.”

This means that men are biologically wired to look for, and feel “attracted” to women who have the qualities and traits that indicate a high level of health and “fitness.”

But unfortunately, this “screening process” that’s going on inside a man’s mind is largely unconscious. A man looks at much subtler “cues” about a woman that tell him what to think.

Some of these “cues” are:

-Physical Appearance (the obvious one): If you have a specific hip-to-waist ratio, without consciously “measuring” it, a man will see it and possibly feel a physical attraction

-Health: Things like how white the whites in your eyes are, your scent, and the tone and nature of your skin are all subtle indicators of a healthy immune system. Men find white eyes, certain scents, and smooth skin attractive not because they know they indicate that a woman is healthy and will have a high likelihood of success for offspring, but because they feel attracted to these things for some reason.

-”Emotional Fitness”: If a woman has the kind of attitude and “vibe” about her that is fun to be around, stimulating, exciting, and positive and consistent… then a man unconsciously will see her as a good long-term mate.

If you’d like to learn how men think when it comes to the “dating process”… and how a man really thinks about a woman and getting involved in a real relationship with her, then I’ve got just what you need.

Women who don’t understand what the dating and commitment process is like inside a man’s mind seem to keep running into the same painful situations, frustrations, and traps with men.

The way a man grows close to a woman, the reasons why he chooses her over another woman, and when and why he decides to start sharing himself with her and growing a real and committed relationship is simply different than it is for most women.

One of the biggest “make it or break it” points for women in relationships with men is when you start to grow close and want to move from just a casual and unspoken thing into a deeper and more serious relationship.

If you’ve ever felt “stuck” in your love life because you didn’t know how to break through the “casual dating” stage with a man and move into a real and committed relationship, I can help.

If you know much about men, then you probably already know that the answer with a man in this situation is NOT to ask him for a commitment.

Lots of women try this and become frustrated and baffled when the man they thought they were close to completely pulls away from them and even tries to end the relationship all together.

If you want to grow your relationship with a man, the best way to move into a committed relationship isn’t to come up against his emotional resistance to commitment when you bring it up.

The best relationships that women enjoy most, and that last the longest, are the ones where the man is leading the woman into a committed relationship. But for lots of women, things seem to get terribly turned around.

For the greatest chance at happiness and success with a man, and to be able to quickly and easily move from a casual situation to a real and committed relationship with a man, the answer is to learn:

1) How the commitment process works for him

2) How to make a man want to be with you and lead you in to a committed relationship

3) How to keep your relationship growing and healthy so that you both stay emotionally involved and fulfilled by the relationship

Most women NEVER learn these things, and as a result, they never have the kind of success in dating and relationships with men they really want.

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How To Survive A Break Up

When you breakup with someone that you either love or once loved, it is always going to be a difficult and painful time.  Surviving a break up is something that virtually everyone has to go  through at some point in their lives.  So, if this is your first time trying to cope with a break up, then here are some useful tips that will help you to move forward and end your heartache sooner rather than later.

When working at surviving a break up, don’t depend on your ex to help you get through the breakup.  That means that you will have to stop all contact with your ex and not rely on them for the late night chats or for help to move that huge piece of furniture from one side of the room to the next.  Whatever space your ex filled in your life, you’re going to have to to fill that space with someone or something else.

Surviving a break up means that you have to look forward and not constantly look back.  Of course if your relationship was long-term and you were in love, then you are not going to simply get over the end of that relationship over night. It will take you time to come to terms with what has happened.  You will need to reflect and process the relationship. However, a huge mistake would be if you spent all your spare time thinking about nothing but ‘when you and your ex did this, or when you and your ex did that!’

Get ready to get out and meet some new people. Meeting new people can be a great buzz.  It can help you to see that there is life out there, beyond your ex, and you can be a part of that life. So get out of your dirty sweats and go and talk to some new people.

When you’re surviving a break up, it is very easy to find that you have not been looking after yourself physically.  It could be that you find that you’re eating nothing but junk food and you might even be drinking too much.  Remember, alcohol is a depressant and though it might make you feel much more able to cope with what you are going through in regard to your breakup, come the next morning it will only make you feel low and depressed.

Instead, concentrate on eating well and adding some exercise to your life.  Take one day at a time and before you know it, you will have got through a month and then many months and you will have survived your break up!

What Some Women Know About Men That You Don’t

When it Comes to Men, Some Women Have It…and You Can Too!

by Bob Grant, L.P.C. author of “The Woman Men Adore”

Every day in my counseling office, I hear women say some variation of this:

“In the last few years, I have had relationships with men who, at first, seemed perfect for me.  They were attentive, attractive and fun to be around.  Then suddenly, as if they knew they had reeled me in, they stopped trying.  They stopped calling as much, stopped taking me out and basically stopped the romantic dance that couples do when they are falling in love.  Was it me?  After all, I think I’m attractive, have a good personality and I work out to keep my body in nice shape.  So why then, do I always end up with the men who become “couch potatoes” at my house?  The men who would rather bring a six pack over and watch football all day and then expect me to fix dinner?  Do I suddenly turn into just a “buddy” to them, the girl next door?

I see other women who, frankly, are not as attractive as I am or as thin as I am, who seem to get the “hot” men.  I don’t necessarily mean gorgeous men, but the men who take them to nice restaurants, bring them flowers, take them dancing and, basically, “court” them.  What secrets do they know that I don’t, because they certainly aren’t sharing them?”

Most women think a wonderful relationship is simply about finding the right man. The truth is that those women who have wonderful relationships didn’t necessarily know where to find good men, instead they attracted them. Would you like to learn how to attract and keep a wonderful man? The best way to find out probably isn’t by talking to a woman; instead, a man would be able to give you the secrets to a man’s heart.

I’d like to share with you the secrets that men find irresistible and powerless to resist. The dirty little secret is that having a perfect body isn’t nearly as important as you have been led to believe. You can discover this incredible information by simply clicking here.

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Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back After You’ve Dumped Him

Getting your ex boyfriend back after you have dumped him is challenging.  You may have broken up in a fit of pique.  You may not have even meant it.  But, his heart has been broken and getting your ex boyfriend back can be a challenge.

Did you know that three quarters of the time, the girl breaks up with the guy while only one in four break ups is initiated by a man.  Still, many girls lament about “the one who got away” even if they were the one sending the guy away in the first place.  You don’t have to give up on a relationship though, even if you were the one who called it off.

As I stated before, getting your ex boyfriend back after you dump him can be a challenge.  You have to have a plan.  Here’s my five step strategy.

Step 1: Give him a couple of days to deal with his emotions.  Guys are often clueless.  You probably had pretty good reasons for tossing him.  He probably never saw it coming.  So, if you want to get back together – but on your terms – let him stew for a couple of days.  Don’t even answer his calls or texts at first, even if it seems necessary for getting your ex boyfriend back.

Step 2: Let him make the first move.  After a couple of days, start to answer his phone calls or texts.  Don’t send back his love letters.  Instead, seem like you are receptive to his advances.

Step 3: Agree to a meeting.  After a week or so, agree to meet with him at a neutral place like a coffee house.  Let him apologize and try to make overtures.  But, don’t make any promises.  This is a critical step in the getting your ex boyfriend back program

Step 4: Agree to a date.  Go out on a date.  If possible, try to arrange it so that it is as romantic as possible.  Go back to the restaurant you went to on your first date or rent a video of the first movie you saw together.

Step 5: The final step in getting your ex boyfriend back after you have dumped him is to set your conditions for getting back together.  Remember, you have the upper hand at the moment.  He’s not taking you for granted.  Now is the time to set the conditions for getting back together.  If there are particular habits of his that you just can not stand, make him agree to give them up.  Let him know that he will have to treat you better in the future or else.  And mean the “or else” part.

Getting your ex boyfriend back after you have dumped him means disciplining yourself to stick to a program.  You obviously want him back or you wouldn’t be reading this article.  But, you also want him to change.  That’s the goal of this 5 step program.  When you follow it, you will be getting your ex boyfriend back on your own terms.

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Having Fun Keeps A Relationship Alive

We all know how to have fun, at least we used to.  For many adults we seem to have lost the ability to just let go and have some fun, along with some great, big belly laughs.  Unfortunately that lack of fun can have serious negative effects on us, our health, and our relationships. Put some fun back in your relationship. You might save your relationship…and your mind!

Having fun with your partner can be virtually anything that the two of you enjoy together. And if it makes you laugh out loud, that’s even better. You can go to an amusement park, check out the latest comedy at the local movie theater, stay home and play a energetic video game, whatever.  One word of caution though, when playing games together: don’t let your competitiveness become a problem.  This isn’t a competition between you and your partner, it’s a chance for the two of you to share an easy going, fun, time together.

If you are the type of person that is overly competitive (which is almost always a sign of being very insecure and you may want to get some counseling to help you feel better about yourself, so you don’t always have to ‘win’ . You’d be better off sticking to non- competitive fun things with your partner, forget the games for now.

When you really let go and act like a twit that can be a scary thing.  You might be afraid your partner will think you’re weird and make fun of you.  When you can share these times with your partner and you are both acting silly together, that actually builds trust between the two of you.   That is just another bond between the two of you and your relationship is one step to becoming stronger.

When you first started dating your partner, and falling in love, the two of you probably laughed and acted silly all the time.  But as we grow into our relationship, especially when we start living together and start sharing the responsibilities of a household, we seem to have fun with our partners less and less.

One thing you can do to determine how much fun is in your relationship,  is over the course of a week, keep a journal.  Mark down how many things you do with your partner that are pleasant, such as watching a movie together, talking, going for a walk, playing a game, and having sex, etc., versus how many non-fun things you do together such as taking out the trash, talking about your financial situations, talking about troubles at work, etc.

If this ratio of good times vs. bad times is like most relationships, it’s probably way out of balance.  Most couples will have many more of the mundane daily interactions than they will of the fun loving, building a bond interactions. The first step to changing it is to recognize it.

You can strengthen your bond with your partner by putting some fun back into your everyday lives.  It’s not a hard thing to do and you’ll both feel better about yourselves, about each other, and about your relationship…what could be better?

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