Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back After You’ve Dumped Him
July 1, 2010 by pattycakes
Filed under Relationship
Getting your ex boyfriend back after you have dumped him is challenging. You may have broken up in a fit of pique. You may not have even meant it. But, his heart has been broken and getting your ex boyfriend back can be a challenge.
Did you know that three quarters of the time, the girl breaks up with the guy while only one in four break ups is initiated by a man. Still, many girls lament about “the one who got away” even if they were the one sending the guy away in the first place. You don’t have to give up on a relationship though, even if you were the one who called it off.
As I stated before, getting your ex boyfriend back after you dump him can be a challenge. You have to have a plan. Here’s my five step strategy.
Step 1: Give him a couple of days to deal with his emotions. Guys are often clueless. You probably had pretty good reasons for tossing him. He probably never saw it coming. So, if you want to get back together – but on your terms – let him stew for a couple of days. Don’t even answer his calls or texts at first, even if it seems necessary for getting your ex boyfriend back.
Step 2: Let him make the first move. After a couple of days, start to answer his phone calls or texts. Don’t send back his love letters. Instead, seem like you are receptive to his advances.
Step 3: Agree to a meeting. After a week or so, agree to meet with him at a neutral place like a coffee house. Let him apologize and try to make overtures. But, don’t make any promises. This is a critical step in the getting your ex boyfriend back program
Step 4: Agree to a date. Go out on a date. If possible, try to arrange it so that it is as romantic as possible. Go back to the restaurant you went to on your first date or rent a video of the first movie you saw together.
Step 5: The final step in getting your ex boyfriend back after you have dumped him is to set your conditions for getting back together. Remember, you have the upper hand at the moment. He’s not taking you for granted. Now is the time to set the conditions for getting back together. If there are particular habits of his that you just can not stand, make him agree to give them up. Let him know that he will have to treat you better in the future or else. And mean the “or else” part.
Getting your ex boyfriend back after you have dumped him means disciplining yourself to stick to a program. You obviously want him back or you wouldn’t be reading this article. But, you also want him to change. That’s the goal of this 5 step program. When you follow it, you will be getting your ex boyfriend back on your own terms.
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This didnt help me at all because he isnt calling me or texting me because i guess i hurt him that much to the point he doesnt want to speak to me ever…i really regret breaking up with him
Sorry to hear that he’s not calling or texting you. It’s easy to lash out at someone you care about and have become comfortable with, however, we really should think twice before saying hurtful things.
Take this time to think about what you could have done differently. In your next relationship, think twice before saying things that are hurtful. If you feel you need to say something that may hurt your partner’s feelings, try to do it in a non-abusive, or hurtful way. I’ve found that if I put myself in the other person’s shoe and thought how my words would affect me, it was easier to change my tone or words dramatically. Somethings just asking them not to do something may be enough. After all, we’re not perfect.
idk but he aint calling me texting or anything, he was treating me like shit! really! so i had to brakeup with him!! but i explained to him that i did everythingfor him,that i love him to dead!! but he did not matter and for the first time on my life i took courage and took the desicion to not be toguether anymore! i thoought he’ll call me next day !!!but has been over a week and nothing!! how long should i wait!!! or everything it’s los now!!please someone answer i’m dying!!! this painis the worsti ever had!!!
sorry for the spelling!i dont speak englishn i hope u understan whati’m tryin to say
please answer!!!!!!!!!!
You did the right thing by breaking up with a man that treated you poorly. You deserve better than that. No one deserves to be treated like “shit”. My advice to you is to move on. If you put your friends on the back burner, now is the time to get reacquainted with them. Right now, you need your friends to reassure you that you matter. Take this time to think about what you really want in a relationship…what traits you want in a man. By knowing what you want, you’ll make a better choice next time.