No Response To Your Online Dating Ads?

October 5, 2009 by  
Filed under Online Dating

For those who would like to be happy with their love life, dating is probably the single most important activity that one should engage in before proceeding onto the more serious part of a relationship, like marriage. If successfully pursued, dating can provide greater gratifications to those who wished they were happier and more contented with their lives. If ever they failed, it is probably the most horrifying event of their lives.

Having a bad hair day, a missed flight, or a burned fried egg, can be endured by most people, but to have a bad date is like living in agony. When love becomes decapitated, life becomes a survival of the losers.

No wonder why everybody is trying hard to come up with something unique and quirkily entertaining when it comes to personal ads. These ads are not the typical ads that people see on televisions or in print. Personal ads are more like profiles, though; the main purpose is also to advertise one’s self. People who vie for personal ads are those who hope that someday love begets love and that somebody will soon find them among the many singles who try their luck in cupid’s daunting game.

So, here’s an individual, with their fingers crossed as they post their personal ad online, trying to find the love of their life and wishing that someday, somebody would soon reply. Five days, two weeks, 4 months, and still, they don’t get a response. The next thing they know, they’re already retracting their personal ad, sulk in the corner, and mope. They starts to develop low self-esteem and begins to blame themselves for not being desirable enough to get responses.

What they failed to do is to analyze what went wrong. They failed to look back on hertake a good look at their personal ad, identify each part, and evaluate what should have been done right to get the response they desperately needed.

The problem with most people, who fails to get responses on their online dating ads, is that they easily get depressed, and once they are depressed, they start to blame themselves and curse whoever managed to come up with an idea such as online dating and personal ads.

This should not be the case because not identifying the real problem or the ultimate cause of such negative results would only mean that the person is not really interested. Or maybe, he or she is interested but is too desperate to have positive results but do not have any idea how to make it happen.

People should know what to do with their personal ads to gain the gratifications they wanted. So, for people who want to have knockout personal ads that are proven to have positive results, here is a list of some tips:

1. People should learn how to describe their selves truthfully and acurately.

When making personal ads, people should take note of the things they should include on their ad.  It should include information that will provide the other person with a visualized concept of the person in the ad.

The explanation behind this logical reason is relatively simple. Who would try to obtain an item if the buyer does not know what he is getting? It goes to show that before somebody replies on one’s personal ad, the other person should feel the enticement in order to compel him or her to respond.

2. It would be better to tell more stories and not reports.

People should always remember that they are writing their personal ads. This means that they should meticulously find some ways on how to make their selves saleable to the viewing public.

It would be better to write some stories about their life and experiences. However, one should take note not to overdo this one as it will appear and sound like a mushy write-up ready to be devoured by some hungry wastebasket.

It is best to write something people can relate to. Persons who would like to have positive results on their ads should know where to draw the line between telling something about themselves and bragging about themselves. They are entirely two different things that derive two different reactions.

Best of all, honesty should always be incorporated in whatever write-up they do.

3. People should never dwell on negative aspects like problems or failed relationships.

Posting personal ads is not about obtaining some help from other people. So, there’s no room for advices or petty counseling sessions. It’s best to create a personal ad that would draw in positive responses by creating positive profiles first. As they say, once somebody starts something negative, chances are, the negative vibe will stick to the end.

The key point in writing personal ads is to come up with something that will appear very interesting and attention grabbing. So, if a person gets no response on his or her ad, there is no use crying over spilled milk. What matters most is how to start over with a nice, enticing personal ad.

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Comments

6 Responses to “No Response To Your Online Dating Ads?”
  1. Clemento says:

    In truth, immediately i didn’t understand the essence. But after re-reading all at once became clear.

  2. Kouba says:

    I liked it. So much useful material. I read with great interest.

  3. Floost says:

    I read a few topics. I respect your work and added blog to favorites.

  4. Philtron3030 says:

    Another point:

    Don’t list unrealistic qualities you look for in a partner.

    Example: “I want my ideal partner to be strong, fun, outgoing, witty, calm when need be, takes out the trash, always love me, cooks me dinner, makes me bubble baths, honest, intelligent, good looking, makes over 50k a year, has a black infiniti G37, like horses, will accept my children, wants children of his own, loving, kind, caring…did I say they MUST always love me?”

    Talk about a turn off! Nobody is all those things at one time. be more realistic and list a FEW major qualities you look for.

  5. Polprav says:

    Hello from Russia!
    Can I quote a post in your blog with the link to you?

  6. pattycakes says:

    Yes you can. Thanks for asking

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